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Xa icandelo 28 yoMthetho kaRhulumente waseKhaya¹ yarhoxiswa, ngaphakathi 2003, saxelelwa ukuba oku kukuthintela ukuxhatshazwa kwamafanasini. Abanye bethu balumkise ngelithi oku akuyonyani. Icandelo 28 yenzelwe kuphela ukuthintela ukusasazwa kwezinto ezicetywayo khuthaza ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT: yaye hayi ukuba ukuthintela iinzame zokukhuthaza ukunyamezelana nokuqonda abantu abambalwa ngokwesini. Kodwa sasingahoywa. Olunye usuku, Intombi yomhlobokazi engekafiki ekwishumi elivisayo yafika ekhaya ivela esikolweni ibuza, “Ndazi njani ukuba ndiyintombazana?” Kodwa ngoku, urhulumente wase-UK malunga noku yenza ulwaphulo-mthetho naliphi na ilinge lokucenga abantu abatsha ukuba bahambe kwindlela yokuphila yobufanasini okanye i-transgender. Uthethwano olusemthethweni’ iphela nge-4 kaFebruwari 2022: kodwa i isicatshulwa esiyinyani sokubonisana ifundeka njenge-manifesto ye-Stonewall kwaye ichaza ngokuthe ngqo oko, “Urhulumente intando ban uguqulo unyango. Akukho sizathu soku ezinyanzelisayo kunye nezothe izenzo kunye nobungqina bucacile ukuba ayisebenzi.” (Intshayelelo, ingxelo yokuvula, ugxininiso lwam.)

Ungandivi kakubi. Ndandingcungcuthekiswa ‘njengesisi’ (kwaye emva koko 'homo') kuyo yonke iminyaka yam yokuqala. Ndiyaqonda ukuba kunjani ukufuna ukuba ‘yinto eqhelekileyo;’ ukanti uzibhaqe engakwazi kwaphela ukutshintsha icala aze agqibele sele ecinga ngokuzibulala. Okwangoku, ukwenzela mna, yonke into yatshintsha kungekudala emva kokuba ndibe ngumKristu 14. Ndafumanisa ukuba uthando lukaThixo lwalunamandla ngakumbi kunezinyanzelo zesini; kwaye namhlanje ndingutatomkhulu owonwabileyo emtshatweni! Kodwa ukuba bendikhe ndavezwa kwi-propaganda eqhubekayo ye-LGBT ephonswa kwizikolo zethu kunye nemithombo yeendaba yolutsha namhlanje ndiyathandabuza kakhulu ukuba bendinokubambelela kumsinga ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze ndifumane ubunyani bam..

Oko kundenza ndibe ngowokuqala, kwaye okona kubalulekileyo, isizathu sokuba olu thethwano luchithwe…

Ngokunzulu Usiya, okuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuphuma.

Amava am awam phambi kokuguqulwa kwam awazange andiqhubele phambili kunokuzama ukuzivavanya: kodwa ndandikhoboke kakhulu kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba akukho nto ndinokuyenza ukuze ndophule oku. Kodwa, ndikhwankqiswe, kwathatha kuphela umthandazo omnye onxungupheleyo, xa ndisemazantsi elitye, ukuqhekeza ukundibamba oku kum. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda kwam ngesondo kunye nothando kwakumoshekile kangangokuba kwathatha 4 iminyaka yokuziyeka ngokupheleleyo ngaphambi kokuba ndiphiliswe ngokwaneleyo nokuba cinga malunga nokuba nokwenzeka kobudlelwane bezesondo obuqhelekileyo.

Ukuba urhulumente wayenendlela yakhe, Bendiya endaweni yoko kwanyanzeleka ukuba aqhubeke nzulu kubufanasini okanye ubomi transgender kwabo 4 iminyaka! Ucinga ukuba ngekwakunzima kangakanani ngoko?

Indlela yokuphila ye-LGBT ibandakanya imingcipheko emikhulu kakhulu

Kudla ngokuthiwa ‘unyango lokuguqula’ imele ivalwe kuba iyingozi; esona sityholo sihlala sikhona kukuba kwandisa umngcipheko wokuzibulala. Ingxelo yaseCoventry, egunyaziswe ngurhulumente ukuba axhase uthethwano lwakhe, yenza uninzi lophononongo olubanga ukuba iingcinga zokuzibulala phakathi kwabo babenonyango lokuguqula’ babe Kabini ixhaphake njengakwabo bangazange bayenze.² (Inyaniso, eso sifundo ineziphene ezibulalayo; kunye nokuphononongwa kwakhona kweengqikelelo zayo eziphosakeleyo zicebisa ukuba nkqu ayiphumelelanga Unyango ludla ngokuphumela kwezinye ukunciphisa yotyekelo lokuzibulala.³) Kodwa nokuba ibiyinyani, ingaba oku kuthelekiswa njani nomngcipheko wokuzibulala ovela kwiindlela zokuphila ze-LGBT? Olona vavanyo lucokisekileyo lwalo mbuzo kubantu be-LGB - uhlalutyo lwe-US 'Generations’ Idatha yokufunda⁴ olwenziwa ngabaphandi be-LGB - bagqiba ekubeni izehlo zeengcinga zokuzibulala ziphelile kasixhenxe inkulu kune non-LGB ntanga!⁵ Okubi kakhulu - isifundo saseSweden se eyona ukuzibulala kulandela utyando reassignment ngokwesondo wafumanisa izinga amaxesha alishumi elinesithoba ukuba non-LGBT ntanga zabo!⁶

Ke kutheni uthethwano lugxile ekuthinteleni 'unyango lokuguqula’ ngaphandle kokukhankanya umngcipheko omkhulu kakhulu obangelwa kukukhuthazwa kwemathiriyeli ye-LGBT ezikolweni?

50 Iminyaka yeMithetho yePro-LGBT ayiphumelelanga

Kodwa, ityhila ngakumbi kunamanani alula azibuleleyo, isifundo esicatshulwe kwi [5] ngasentla yayiyilelwe ukuvavanya ulindelo lokuphucula imeko yentlalo yabantu beLGB ngenxa yoko 50 iminyaka yohlaziyo lwezomthetho yayiza kubangela ukuphucuka komgangatho wabo wobomi. Bakwenze oku ngokuthelekisa iziphumo zovavanyo lwe 3 iminyaka eyahlukeneyo.’ Kodwa zafikelela kwizigqibo (ugxininiso lwam):

“Sifumene iyantlukwano ebalulekileyo nenomtsalane yeqela ekuphumeni kwamanqanaba, kunye namalungu eqela elincinane eliphuma ngaphambili kakhulu kunamalungu amaqela amabini amadala. Kodwa sifumene Hayi Iimpawu zokuba imeko yentlalo ephuculweyo ithintele ukuvezwa kwabo kuxinzelelo oluncinci-zombini i-distal stressors, ezifana nobundlobongela nocalucalulo, kunye ne-proximal stressors, ezifana ne-homophobia yangaphakathi kunye nokulindela ukwaliwa. Uxinzelelo lwengqondo kunye ukuzibulala ukuziphatha kwakhona kwaba hayi iphuculwe, kwaye ngokwenene babenjalo kubi kwabancinci kumaqela amakhulu.

“Sifumene isithintelo esicacileyo kwiqela elincinci elibonakala likhethekile kubantu abambalwa ngokwesondo. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba akukho cala libalulekileyo kwiipateni zokunika ingxelo kwesi sikali esinokuchaza ipateni yeziphumo zethu.”

“Iziphumo zethu azihambelani ngokucacileyo ne-hypothesis.“

Abaphandi bazama ukucacisa ezi ziphumo ngokucebisa ukuba, “thetha ngonyamezelo lweengcamango zempucuko ezinjengokuchaswa kwabantu besini esifana nesahlukileyo, nokuchaswa nogonyamelo kubantu abancinane ngokwesini.” Kodwa, Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba ungenelelo lukarhulumente oluphenjelelwe yi-LGBT lusenokuba lubangele ukucaphuka koluntu kwezinye iindawo., ubukhulu becala kukho ukunyamezelwa koluntu okukhulu kunangaphambili. Lixesha lokuba siqale ukujongana nokwenzeka ukuba, naphezu kokuphuculwa kwentlalo kunye nokhathalelo lwezonyango oluphuculweyo, abaninzi abaqhelisela amafanasini baye ngokulula hayi bayifumana inzaliseko ababeyilindele.

Yintoni Ngokwenene Eqhubekayo?

Uthethwano lubanga ukuba, “Izindululo zethu zizonke kwaye zikhusela wonke umntu, nokuba bathanda ntoni na ngokwesondo nokuba ngaba batshintshe isini okanye akunjalo.” Kodwa konke yophando kwiphepha eligunyaziswe ngokukodwa, “Uguqulo unyango: uvavanyo lobungqina kunye nophononongo lomgangatho” (emva koku kubhekiselwa kuyo njenge “Ingxelo yaseCoventry”) igxile kule nkcazo ilandelayo: “Ubungqina bucebisa ukuba iindlela zanamhlanje zonyango lokuguqula zihlala zisekwe kwinkolelo yokuba ukuqhelaniswa ngokwesini esifanayo kunye neempawu ze-transgender ziluphazamiseko lophuhliso., iziyobisi okanye iingxaki zomoya.” (Ingxelo yaseCoventry, 1.2.1, “Zeziphi iifom ezithatha unyango lokuguqula?“) Uthethwano luchaza ngokufanayo ukuba “Esemthethweni ukuthetha unyango oluxhasa umntu obuza imibuzo ukuba ngaba LGBT suku qala kwisiseko sokuba LGBT sisiphene okanye intsilelo” (Imvelaphi, 4th ngenxa. (#37), ugxininiso lwam. Ukusombulula olu lwimi lungacacanga, kwakhona kuthetha ukuba naluphi na unyango olungaqalisi kwingcinga yokuba ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT iqhelekile ngokugqibeleleyo iya kuba engekho mthethweni.) Nantsi lapho ngokupheleleyo akukho uphando okanye ingxoxo yeziphumo ezinokwenzeka kunye nobungozi bokufundiswa kwe-LGBT. Ke, Ngelixa oku kungakhupheli phandle ngokupheleleyo ukuba kungenzeka ukuzama ukuguqulela umntu kwindlela yokuphila ye-LGBT kunokuba noxanduva lokutshutshiswa., kucace kakhulu ukuba injongo ephambili womthetho ocetywayo kuku yenza ulwaphulo-mthetho naluphi na unyango oluphakamisa umbono wokuba ubuni obungafaniyo bufanele bube bethu eqhelekileyo, ulindelo lwendalo okanye olungagqibekanga kubudlelwane bezesondo babantu.

Ukuba oko bekungekubi ngokwaneleyo, urhulumente uye wazama ngabom ukubaxa nokukhuthaza ucalucalulo kwabo bathandabuza imfundiso yeLGBT., ngakumbi ngamaxesha amaninzi unyango loguqulo uphawu njenge “ezinyanzelisayo kunye nezothe” kunye nokuzama ukuyinxulumanisa ezingqondweni zabantu nezenzo ezinjengokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ezixhaswa ngurhulumente, Unyango lokucaphuka, ECT, ukuthenwa (kwanokulungisa’ udlwengulo) - zonke zazikho, ngokufanelekileyo, yavalwa kumashumi eminyaka eyadlulayo! Nkqu nokukhethwa kwegama, 'unyango lokuguqula’ kubonakala kucetywe ngabom ukunxulumanisa izenzo ezinjalo neenzame zokunyanzela abantu ukuba batshintshe iinkolelo zabo zonqulo. NjengoMike Freer MP, UMphathiswa wezokuLingana uxelele iKomiti yoLingano yabaseTyhini malunga 30 NgoNovemba 21, “Ndacinga ukuba uxwebhu lokubonisana luthambile kakhulu. Ndaziva ukuba ayiyomzobo ngokwaneleyo. Ingozi ngokuthetha ngonyango lokuthetha kukuba konke kuvakala kuthambile. Ngubani onokuchasa unyango lokuthetha? Ndandifuna ukuba ibe ngumzobo ngakumbi.”

Eyona nto iphambili ekujoliswe kuyo ngulo mthetho hayi izenzo zomzimba: yiyo iinkolelo ukuba sikhuthaze abanye ukuba balandele.

Kutheni Le nto Isenzeka?

Ndithetha ngokwam amava, ndisemncinci akukho mntu wandixelela ukuba ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT kwakungaqhelekanga. Kodwa kuthatha kuphela isiseko sokuqonda ngesondo kunye nebhayoloji yabantu ukuqonda ukuba imizimba yethu yenzelwe ubudlelwane besini esahlukileyo.. Ndandiziva ndingenamtsalane ngamantombazana; kwaye ndandizicaphukela kakhulu izinyanzelo ezazindiqhubela ekuziphatheni ezazisa isiqabu sexeshana ngaphambi kokuba ndibuye ndinamandla kunangaphambili.. Umphumo waba, ngokulula kakhulu, imvakalelo enzulu yehlazo; kwaye ndacaphuka kakhulu-kwaye ndakhanyela ngamandla-nakuphi na ukubethelela ukuba 'ndiyi-queer,’ njl. Kwiindibano ezininzi zobuqu kunye nezinye izihlandlo kule minyaka idlulileyo ndiye ndabona isidingo sokugubungela le mvakalelo yehlazo yangaphakathi njengeyona nto iphambili ekhuthazayo kuluntu lwama-gay.. Intsingiselo kanye yesi sifinyezo ('Umhle njengawe') kunye nokukhuthazwa 'kweGay Pride’ iziganeko zibalisa ibali elifanayo. Oku kuhlala kubizwa ngokuba 'yi-internalized homophobia'.: kodwa ekusebenzeni, kaninzi ayifakwanga kakhulu ‘ngaphakathi’ njengokuba ‘ngaphakathi’ okanye ‘nethuku.’ Ke kwabo baziva bevaleleke kubomi be-LGBT zimbalwa izinto ezibuhlungu njengokukhunjuzwa kwezo mvakalelo zentloni - ngakumbi ukuba uzame 'unyango.’ kwaye ayizange isebenze.

Ngaba 'Uguqulo unyango’ Sebenza?

Kwakhona, ngokwawam amava ndingatsho ukuba injalo; kwaye phantse ekuphela koncedo lomntu endandinalo yayivela kumfundisi owaba nobuganga bokuchaza ingcambu yengxaki yam waza wandikhuthaza ukuba ndithandaze.. Kodwa kufuneka nditsho ukuba ukugqabhuka kubomi obufana nesini esifana nesini esifana nesakhe okanye ubomi obungaphaya kwesini esinye kunokwenzeka kakhulu kunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Ithuku lezesondo - naluphi na uhlobo lwesini - lunamandla kakhulu; kwaye ukuba umntu akaqinisekanga ukuba ubomi nothando zingaphezulu lee kunokwaneliseka ngokwesini, akunakwenzeka ukuba azingise.. Andinalo 'ukuguqulwa kwe-gay’ Icandelo loMphathiswa; eneneni ndiye ndasebenzisana ngakumbi namakhoboka eziyobisi angaphambili kunee-LGBT zangaphambili. Kodwa ndiye ndaxelela abantu ababesakuba ngamakhoboka ukuba ukuphuma kwindlela yokuphila ye-LGBT kunzima kunokuyeka iziyobisi. Ikhoboka leziyobisi linokukhetha ukulahla iziyobisi kwaye liphephe abo batyhalayo: kodwa i ex-LGBT isoloko kufuneka ihambe nomzimba wabo. Ndibabonile abo babesakuba likhoboka bebuyela ekuthatheni iziyobisi okanye kwizenzo ze-LGBT - amaxesha amaninzi ngaphambi kokuba bahlukane.. Kwaye, kanjalo, Ndidibene nabaninzi abangekayifumani inkululeko. Kodwa, Ewe, yona yenza umsebenzi⁷; kwaye ndinguye ke ndiyambulela uThixo ngokundikhulula!

Unyango olulungileyo nolubi

Ukwenzela mna, njengabo bonke abantu bangaphambili be-LGBT abaziwa ndim ngokobuqu, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yayikukuqonda ukuba uthando lokwenene alukho ngesini. Kwakukho uThixo owayendithanda ngokunyanisekileyo njengoko ndandinjalo, nangona kucacile ukuba kukho izinto ebomini bam awayefuna ukuzitshintsha. Ukuqinisekiswa kwexabiso langaphakathi lomntu njengomntu kakhulu kubalulekile; yaye ingakumbi kumntu oqhele ukuhlala eneentloni. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba simele sizamkele zonke izenzo zabo okanye sicebise ukuba yonke into engobomi babo ‘ilungile.’ Kulula kakhulu ukufumana ibhalansi engalunganga kwaye yenzakalise okanye ilahlekisa kunokuba uncede; yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthelekisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango kwaye ufunde kwiziphumo zazo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kunokufezekiswa ngokutshintshiselana ngokukhululekileyo kolwazi, izimvo kunye neziphumo phakathi kwamaqumrhu eengcali. Kodwa kwimeko yonyango lokutshintsha ngokwesondo kukho ukusilela okubonakalayo kobungqina bokulinga. Oku kungenxa, iminyaka emininzi, Amaqela e-LGBT agxile ekujongeleni phantsi nasekuthuliseni abo bathi utshintsho lunokwenzeka. Phantse akukho phando lwenziwayo oluthathela ingqalelo iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokucetyiswa kunye nezizathu zabo bafuna unyango.. Nophando lweGenerations lwahlula nje phakathi konyango kwiingcali ezingezizo ezenkolo kunye neenkokeli zenkolo kwaye-ngokugxekayo-luthintele uhlalutyo lwayo ukuba ayiphumelelanga zonyango ngokubandakanya kuphela abo bathe okwangoku yabanga ukuba yiLGB. Kodwa, ukusukela 2015, xa ii-lobbyists ze-LGB zaqala zacenga uninzi lwemibutho yeengcebiso zobuchwephesha ukuba zibhalisele 'iMemorandam yokuQondana' yazo.’⁸, imeko ibimbi kakhulu. Naliphi na igqirha elizama ukucela umngeni kwifilosofi ye-LGBT ngoku ivaliwe ukusuka kwintsebenzo yobungcali, okanye ukubhengeza iinkonzo zabo. Oku kwenze ukuba uphando olunzulu lungenzeki.

Amaqela amagqirha angarhumiyo kwi-MoU asekhona, kanjalo, njenge International Federation for Therapeutic and Counselling Choice (iftcc); who recently held a scientific symposium in London, exposing the glaring scientific flaws in the government’s Coventry report. The venue for this had to be kept secret until the last minute due to the risk of sabotage by LGBT activists: but recordings of the sessions can now be viewed Apha.

Since the introduction of the MoU, a further lobby-group inspired change has been made to it: which is now causing serious division between different LGB and LGBT groups. For an detailed account of how all this has been brought about, despite of a lack of genuine scientific consensus, yabona Apha.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, there have been cases where therapy has proved unhelpful; ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yeendlela zonyango ezingalunganga, ngamanye amaxesha ukunqongophala kokuqonda ubunzima be, kunye nexesha elifunekayo, inkqubo yokuphilisa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukungabikho kokulandelelana xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli. Kodwa, njengoko Sullins’ uhlalutyo lubonisiwe, ngokulinganayo ayiphumelelanga Unyango ludla ngokuphumela ekubeni kuncitshisiwe ukuzibulala (ngokuqinisekisa ulweyiseko lomntu malunga nobuyena bokwenyani). Kukho izizathu ezomeleleyo zokucebisa uphando olucokisekileyo ngakumbi ukuseka iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokucebisa kunye nemveliso kuyo nayiphi na imeko kunye nokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba baxelelwe ngokufanelekileyo malunga nokuphumelela kunye nokungaphumeleli kwalo naluphi na unyango.. Kufuneka kubekho isibonelelo soluntu, okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho, izohlwayo ukuba abantu bazimela kakubi iinkonzo abazinikezelayo, okanye ngembuyekezo kwimeko yengozi okanye yokungahoywa; ke kukho imeko elungileyo yokuseka isakhelo solawulo esivulelekileyo nesiphendulayo. Unyango lwasemoyeni lunokwandisa umngcipheko weengozi kuphela. Izindululo zikarhulumente ziya kuba nefuthe lokusithintela ekubeni sifunde iinyani ngaphambi kokuba kube lixesha.

Ngaba abantwana kufuneka bakhuthazwe kwiindlela zokuphila ze-LGBT?

I-Memorandum of Understanding ijonge ukuvala naluphi na unyango olo “ibonisa ukucinga ukuba nakuphi na ukuziqhelanisa ngokwesini okanye isini sikhethwa ngokwemvelo kuyo nayiphi na enye.” Nangona kunjalo ubungqina benzululwazi bucacile ukuba i-genome yomntu iqwalaselwe ngokwendalo ukuthanda ubudlelwane besini esahlukileyo. Ngaphantsi kwayo yonke into eqhelekileyo iimeko, abantu banokudibanisa iXY okanye XX chromosome, okukhokelela kwiipateni zomzimba wamadoda okanye owasetyhini, ngokulandelelana. Ke, isondo ngokwasemzimbeni ngokwesiqhelo zilungiswe ekuzalweni: kodwa iimeko ezizodwa, ngakumbi ngexesha lokumitha kunye nokufikisa, ngamanye amaxesha kunokukhokelela ekubonakalisweni kweempawu zomzimba zesini esahlukileyo okanye ukuthotywa kweempawu eziqhelekileyo. Ezi meko zesini ngokwasemzimbeni zinqabile⁹, idla ngokungabi nathuba, kwaye inokufuna iyeza lolungiso okanye utyando; ukwenza ukuba kube sengqiqweni ngokupheleleyo ukuzichaza njengeziphene okanye iintsilelo.

Ingakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana bazibuze isizathu sokuba bazalwe bengamadoda okanye abafazi. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abanye 60-70% kwenze oko ukusa kumlinganiselo othile: kodwa uninzi luya kuba nomzimba osebenzayo oyindoda okanye owasetyhini; kwaye baya kukwamkela oku kwiminyaka yabo yokuqala yama-20, ngaphandle kokungenelela konyango. Nangona kunjalo, Ukufikisa ikwalithuba apho naziphi iimeko zokwahluka kobudlelwane bomzimba ezingacacanga zinokubonakala: ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba iinkonzo zovavanyo lobuchwephesha ziyafumaneka ukuba oku kukrokreleka.

Ngaphandle kweempawu zokuqala zesini zamadoda nabasetyhini, imizila yethu yemfuza isenza sibe neempawu ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo, kubandakanywa nokuguqulwa okuncinci kokumila komzimba kunye nombala, iinguqu ezinkulu zobude, ubunzima kunye namandla, ubukhali beemvakalelo, amandla engqondo kwanethuku’ ukuziphatha. Kukho nobungqina bokuba ezinye iimpawu zesibini ezinxulumene nesondo zinxulunyaniswa nofuzo olungahlali kwichromosomes X okanye Y.. Ezinye zezi zinokuchaphazela iimpawu, njengokutyhalela’ reflex, ezinempembelelo ethile kwindlela yokuziphatha kunye namava ngokwesondo. Kwaye zininzi ezinye iimpawu zomntu, ezifana nokuthambekela kokuthatha umngcipheko, ukuziphatha ndlongo, uvelwano, njl, eziqhelene kakhulu nesini esinye kunesinye kwaye mhlawumbi zinecandelo lemfuzo.

Isiphumo luluhlu olubanzi lweempawu ezinxulumene nofuzo ukusuka kwi-'effeminate’ amadoda ukuba ‘abhuqe’ abafazi. Olu hlobo lokwahluka luqhelekile kwaye luqhelekile ngokugqibeleleyo: kodwa ukucinga ngokugqithisileyo kwenkcubeko kunokukhokelela ekubekweni amabala kwabo banendibaniselwano yeempawu zesibini eziqheleke ngakumbi kubantu besini esahlukileyo kwaye zikhokelele ekubuzeni ‘inyani yaloo mntu.’ isini. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, Izichaso ze-LGBT kwi-stereotyping yezesondo azikho ngaphandle kwezizathu ezivakalayo. Kodwa akukho bungqina bokuba kukho nayiphi na 'imizila ye-gay.’ Akukho nanye kwiinguqulelo zemfuzo ezaziwayo, ngaphandle kweechromosomes zeXY, ziye zaboniswa njengezalathi ezithembekileyo zokuziqhelanisa nesondo. Nakwimeko yamawele afanayo ngokwemfuza, ukuba umntu uthatha isigqibo sokutshintsha isondo, amathuba okuba omnye enze njalo angaphantsi 1 ngaphakathi 3.

Oku kungenxa yokuba into eyenza abantu bahluke njengeentlobo zezethu ukuziqhelanisa. Sizazi ngokwethu, zabanye, okusingqongileyo kunye nempembelelo esinokuba nayo kuyo; kangangoko sinako bhala ngaphezulu Ithuku lethu lemvelo xa kuyimfuneko kwaye sifune iindlela zokusixhaphaza okanye ukubuyisela amandla ethu endalo kunye nobuthathaka bethu.. Kwaye, njengoko sikhula, asiphenjelelwa nje yimizila yemfuza neemeko zethu; siye siqonde ukuba ubomi bethu buhlala bubunjwa ngokunzulu ngakumbi ukhetho kwaye yintoni thina kholwani ukuba yinyani.

Kolu nxibelelwano, kubalulekile ukuvuma ifuthe lokukhuliswa, ngokukodwa ukubaluleka kokungakhathalelwa kwabazali, ukwenzakala kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. Umntwana uya kusabela kwiimeko ezinjalo, efuna intuthuzelo, uthando kunye nokuvuma; kwaye oku kunokukhokelela ngokulula ekusekweni kweendlela zokuziphatha kunye neenkolelo ezinokubangela ukugqwethwa kwexesha elide kutyekelo lwendalo lomntwana ngokwesondo..

Iziphumo zokweyisela umntwana osempilweni ngokwesondo ukuba akholelwe ukuba kufuneka atshintshele kwesinye isini ziyintlekele.. Ibandakanya ubunyumba obusisigxina, ukutshatyalaliswa kwamalungu aphilileyo kunye nokutshintshwa kwawo endaweni engenakuze ilandele ngokwenene amava omzimba wokuba nomzimba wesini esahlukileyo.. Akumangalisi ukuba izinga lokuzibulala liphakame ngendlela eyothusayo! Ukuba naluphi na uhlobo lonyango lokuguqula kufuneka lwenziwe ngokungekho mthethweni, oku kuya kuba njalo!

Kuthekani ngobufanasini? Lo ngumba onzima kakhulu ukuwusombulula; njengoko kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwinto umntu uyakholwa ngabo. Abantu abaninzi abatyekele kubufanasini banengxaki yokuziva behlazekile kuba bayabona ukuba oko kuchasene noyilo lwabo lwendalo.. Banokuthi ke balukuhlwe lula yi “Ndilungile – Ndisemzimbeni ongalunganga” ifilosofi ye-transgender extremists. Okanye, ukuba umntu ukholelwa ukuba ubomi bakhe bube sisiphumo samathuba angaboniyo, basenokukhetha nantoni na ebanika olona lonwabo lomzimba. Kodwa ukuba umntu ukholelwa ukuba imo yakhe yomzimba yenzelwe ukubonakalisa injongo kaThixo ngobomi bakhe: ke kuyimfuneko ukuqalisa ukubuza imibuzo enzulu kakhulu malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kothando lokwenyani kunye nomtsalane ngokwesondo (yabona Injongo yothando.) Kodwa okwangoku ndizakuphinda nje oko, ukuba umntu ufuna ukwahlukana neentlobano zesini, kufuneka baqale bafumanise umahluko phakathi kothando lwesini nolobuthixo: nokuba uThixo ubathanda ngokunyanisekileyo, nangazo zonke iziphoso zabo!

Iphupha elibi lamaLungelo oLuntu

Urhulumente uthi iziphakamiso zakhe ziyawahlonela amalungelo abantu. Kwinyani, baliphupha elibi lamalungelo oluntu…

Amalungelo oMntwana

Uthethwano lukhankanya uMthetho woLingano 2010, esebenzisanayo kuphela ngamalungelo abantu abadala: kodwa amalungelo abantwana zi ikhuselwe ngokusemthethweni phantsi kweNgqungquthela yeZizwe Ezimanyeneyo Ngamalungelo Omntwana kunye neEuropean Convention on Human Rights (I-ECHR).

Urhulumente uvakalise injongo yakhe yokuvala konke Uguqulo lonyango lwabangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18 lunamandla, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko, ukwaphula nawaphi na okanye onke la manqaku alandelayo e-UN: 3 -iminqweno engcono yomntwana, 5 - ukuhlonelwa kwamalungelo abazali kunye nobomi bosapho, 12 – ukuzimisela, 13 – inkululeko yokuthetha nokufikelela kulwazi, 14 – inkululeko yokucinga nenkolo, 24 – impilo, 37 – ukhohlakele, impatho engenabuntu okanye ethoba isidima kunye 39 – ukuchacha kuxhatshazo. Urhulumente uzama ukuwahlutha la malungelo ngokuzibeka njengoyena mgwebi weyona nto ilungele umntwana..

Ngapha koko, ukuba urhulumente ucinga ukuba umgaqo-nkqubo wakhe uyavisisana ne-ECHR, ke kufuneka iqwalasele ukuba isiphakamiso sayo sichasene ngqo nomgaqo-nkqubo waseFinland osekelwe ngakumbi kwisayensi, exela ukuba, “Unyango kufuneka lujolise ekunciphiseni okanye ekusombululeni i-dysphoria yesini ngokujolisa ekunciphiseni okanye ekusombululeni iingxaki ze-predisposing, kwaye ungatshintshi imizimba de unyangwe ngokwasengqondweni kwaye 25 iminyaka ubudala."

Inkululeko Yonqulo Nesazela.

Ubume bengubo 'yonyango lokuthetha olucetywayo’ ban, Iimpembelelo kuye nabani na othi nangayiphi na indlela athethe phandle okanye acebise ngokuchasene neethiyori ezixhaphakileyo ze-LGBT zesini., nokuba yeyonqulo, izizathu zokuziphatha okanye zengqondo. Iziqinisekiso ngokuchasene noko zinexabiso elincinane, kunikwe ukuzimisela okwaziwayo kwee-LGBT ze-LGBT ukuba zingcungcuthekise abo bangavumelaniyo nabo ngamatyala omthetho., izoyikiso, ukuvalelwa, njl, kungakhathaliseki ukuba semthethweni kwamabango abo. Akunjalo kuphela; kodwa iinzame ezithile zokuvala ubulungiseleli bomthandazo-kunye naliphi na ilinge lokubala iingxaki zesini kwizizathu zomoya - yenza olu hlaselo luvuleleke kwinkululeko yenkolo nesazela.. Ngempendulo eneenkcukacha, isayinwe ngaphaya 1,000 Abalungiseleli abangamaKristu, yabona Apha. Kodwa qaphela ukuba ukuqwalaselwa okufanayo kusebenza kwezinye iinkonzo ezininzi kunye, kanjalo, kuye nabani na okholelwa ekubalulekeni kweziseko zokuziphatha kuluntu oluphucukileyo.

Isini kunye neSexual Orientation

Izindululo zikaRhulumente, ngelixa bebanga ukuba balinganayo, akukho nto. Bagxile ekukhuthazeni amalungelo e-LGBT encinci (amalungelo uninzi lwethu oluwahloniphayo) ngeendleko zabo bathe, kuso sonke isazela esilungileyo kunye nenjongo, bangavumelani nezi zenzo - kunye ngakumbi ngeendleko zelo gcuntswana lincinci, Ukungcamla ubomi be-LGBT, ukuzisola ngokwenza oko kwaye ndinqwenela ukuyishiya.

Oku kulula hayi ubulungisa, urhulumente onoxanduva okanye ukuhlonelwa kwamalungelo oluntu; yaye Ndikulungele ukujongana nentolongo kunokuba ndithobele umthetho onjalo.

Ukutshabalalisa iDemokhrasi

Olona phawu lubaluleke kakhulu kulo lonke, iyaqhuba, ukuzama ukuvala 'unyango lokuguqula’ yindlela apho iinkqubo eziqhelekileyo zedemokhrasi ziye zaqweqwediswa ngamaqela acinezelayo angengawo awedemokhrasi nangaphenduliyo esidlangalaleni., njenge I-Stonewall, I-Global Equality Caucus, yaye Ihlabathi le-ILGA. Yi le, kanjalo, ukungacebisi ukuba imibutho enjalo ayinalungelo lokuviwa, kunye nezimvo zabo zithathelwe ingqalelo. Kodwa oorhulumente bafanele ukuba balumke bangabonakalisi umkhethe ngokungafanelekanga kwiqela elithile leendwendwe okanye kwelinye: kwaye yile nto kanye ibisenzeka. Nditsho nentshayelelo yomphathiswa kuthethwano ikwenza kucace ukubaluleka okukhulu urhulumente akubambisayo kolu luzayo., ‘Ndikhuselekile Ukuba Ndim’ inkomfa, izakukhokelwa yiGlobal Equality Caucus’ UNick Herbert (oye waqeshwa kwakhona yi-PM njengoMthunywa oKhethekileyo wase-UK kumalungelo e-LGBT). Ngaba yinto nje eyenzekileyo ukuba inkomfa ibe ngoJuni, yaye “Yinjongo kaRhulumente ukuhambisa isithintelo ngokukhawuleza kwaye siza kube silungiselela uyilo loMthetho osaYilwayo weNtwasahlobo yowama-2022.” ?

Kodwa ubungakanani bempembelelo ye-Stonewall emva kwe-scenes ekuqhubeni urhulumente kunye nemibutho yoluntu ibaluleke kakhulu.. Ukulandela inani leenkcazo zenkxalabo malunga nekhono elingaqhelekanga likaStonewall lokuphembelela umgaqo-nkqubo woluntu, I-BBC Radio Ulster's 'uNolan uphanda’ inkqubo isungulwe i 18 uphando lwenyanga olukhokelela kuthotho lwe 11 iipodcasts, enokufikelelwa ngoku Izandi zeBBC. Olona chungechunge lunamandla kodwa lubetha nzima luvavanya indlela iindima ezininzi zikaStonewall njengeqela leendwendwe, umcebisi oyingcaphephe kunye nomvavanyi wokusebenza kwenze ukuba iguqule ngokubonakalayo imigaqo-nkqubo yamasebe karhulumente, abaqeshi abakhulu kunye namajelo eendaba (kuquka neBBC) nangaphaya kwemida ekhoyo yomthetho. Akunjalo kuphela; kodwa iStonewall izuze kakhulu kuzo zombini iigranti kunye neentlawulo zeenkonzo zayo. Ikwabeke amagatya okuvala amaqumrhu karhulumente ebathintela ekwaziseni uluntu ngezinto ezinokuthi zibe 'ziyimfihlo.’ icebiso elinike lona! Ukulandela ezi zityhilelo uninzi lwale mizimba ngoku ihambile, okanye ucinga ukuhamba, yayo 'iiNtshatsheli zokwahluka’ isicwangciso.

Ngomhla we-13 kuNovemba 2021 zombini Amaxesha yaye Thumela kwi-Intanethi wathwala ingxelo yokuba uNikki da Costa, owathi ngo-Agasti warhoxa esikhundleni sakhe njengomlawuli ka-Boris Johnson wemicimbi yowiso-mthetho, wakhalaza oko, “Iqela labacebisi abaphezulu baka-Boris Johnson bavumela umgaqo-nkqubo karhulumente malunga namalungelo okutshintshwa ukuba uyalelwe nguStonewall.” Wabanga loo nto “indawo yokusebenzela enamandla kwiNombolo ye-10” ibijongela phantsi amalungelo abasetyhini, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba “esenza isigqibo ngoko uJohnson wakubonayo kwiibhokisi zakhe ezibomvu waza wala ukulungiselela iintlanganiso nabantu ababeza kubonisa iimbono ezichaseneyo.” IThe Mail imcaphula esitsho, ”Awukho omnye umbutho - akukho shishini, okanye uthando, nokuba inkulu kangakanani-inokuthi ithathe ifowuni kumcebisi okhethekileyo ohleli ngaphandle kweofisi ka-Boris Johnson kwaye enze loo mntu athethe ngqo nenkulumbuso.” “Kodwa olo luhlobo lokufikelela olunaStonewall.” Kutshanje, nge-6 kaJanuwari 2022, I Telegraph iye yabika ukuba Stonewall “ifumene i-£ 1.25 yezigidi kwizibonelelo ezixhaswa ngumhlawuli werhafu kwixesha elidlulileyo 18 iinyanga”, plus “ngaphezulu kwesigidi seepounds ngonyaka elithe lesisa lifumana kumaqumrhu oluntu” ubulungu bayo 'iiNtshatsheli zokwahluka’ inkqubo.

Oku kwakungekho (kwaye Akunjalo) Uthethwano lokwenyani

Vula 30 NgoNovemba 21, xa ebuzwa ukuba kutheni ixesha lokubonisana ekuqaleni libe lifutshane kangaka, UMnu Freer, njengoMphathiswa woLingano ngoku oqhuba olu thethwano, uxelele iKomiti yamaKhosi kunye nokuLingana, “Ngeliphandle, kuba imalunga 'njani', hayi 'ukuba'. Uninzi lweendibano zothethwano zikaRhulumente ziya kuqala ukusuka kwindawo: ‘Ngaba sifanele senze oku? Zithini izimvo zakho?’ Eso sigqibo sithathiwe. Siqhuba ngokuvalwa konyango lokuguqula…” Wabuza ke usihlalo, “Ngaba unexhala lokuba abanye babathathi-nxaxheba abaphambili banokuphoswa ngenxa yokuba inkqubo yokubonisana imfutshane, okanye uqinisekile ukuba bonke—” Umnumzana Freer waphendula, “Ndiqinisekile ukuba wonke umntu onombono wokwabelana sele enazo ezo mbono anokwabelana ngazo.” Le, kanjalo, ayichazi ukuba abo bangazange bayibone imibuzo yokubonisana kwangaphambili banokulungiselela njani impendulo eyaneleyo kwisiqingatha sexesha eliqhelekileyo., ngakumbi njengoko iindaba zothethwano zazingcwatywe kwingxakeko yangaphambi kweKrisimesi kunye neentelekelelo malunga ne-Covid. Ngelo xesha, Uthethwano lwaluza kuphelela apho 4 iintsuku: kodwa, kulandela ugrogriso lweJudicial Review liqela lamalungelo “Imiba yesini”, oku kwandiswe kwi-4th February'22. Kodwa ukunyanzelisa kukarhulumente ukuba baqhubeke nokuba ayikatshintshi.

Sinokuyimisa njani le Juggernaut?

Iwebhusayithi yeZibongozo zikarhulumente ivumela nawuphi na ummi waseBritane okanye umhlali wase-UK ngenkxaso ye 5 abanye ukuqala isicelo; ngaphandle kokuba ihambelana nemithetho karhulumente yokufaneleka, kuchaziwe Apha. Ukuba isicelo siyayifumana 10,000 imisayino, urhulumente uya kwenza impendulo ngokusesikweni. Ukuba iyayifumana 100,000 imisayino, iya kuqwalaselwa ukuze kuxoxwe ngayo ePalamente. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kunjalo hayi abavumelekileyo babe namaxwebhu ezikhalazo angaphezulu kwesinye nangaliphi na ixesha elenza okufanayo okanye okufanayo.

Isibongozo esiya “Rhoxisa izicwangciso zokuvala unyango lokuguqula”sele ihlala kwindawo, Apha“. Kodwa la mazwi akazange abucacise ubunzulu balo mbandela: kwaye ayizange ibhengezwe, ukuqokelela kuphela 20 imisayino ekuqaleni kwayo 3 iinyanga! Oku kungumnqa, kuba kukho imibutho emininzi kunye nabantu abavakalisa inkxalabo enzulu malunga neenjongo zikaRhulumente; kodwa abaninzi bayathandabuza ukutyikitya esi sicelo kuba asivezi iingongoma zabo ngendlela abangathanda ngayo. Kodwa, emva kokuyipapasha kubahlobo bam, inani labatyikityo liphindaphindwe kane nje 4 iintsuku! Ilizwi lesikhalazo alinakutshintshwa ngoku; kodwa ayibalulekanga ngokukodwa, njengoko isicelo singenako nyanzela urhulumente ukuba enze oko acelwayo. Kodwa yona unako thumela umqondiso onamandla wokuba lo ngumcimbi oxhalabisa kakhulu uluntu; kwaye urhulumente kufuneka amise kwaye ahlaziye izindululo zakhe.

Sine ngaphantsi 2 iiveki apho sithatha inyathelo lokukhusela abantwana bethu kuxhatshazo oluqhubeka ngokwamaziko. Uthethwano luphela ngomhla wesine kuFebruwari; kwaye urhulumente ujonge ukuqhubela phambili ngala manyathelo e-Stonewall-style ngokukhawuleza emva koko. Ke ngoko, Ndicela bonke abahlobo bam kunye naye nabani na onenkxalabo yam, ukuba bangasayini kuphela esi sicelo ngokwabo kodwa badlulisele esi sicelo kubahlobo babo ngokungxamisekileyo. Ngaba ungandidibanisa nam kule nto? (N.B. Ukutyikitya, kufuneka ube ngummi wase-UK okanye umhlali. Uya kucelwa ukuba uphendule kwi-imeyile yokuqinisekisa: kodwa igama lakho aliyi kupapashwa.)

YIMA UCINEZELE! Ngaphezulu 2,500 Abaphathiswa ngaphambili batyikitye isingeniso esidibeneyo kudliwano-ndlebe norhulumente. Inkxalabo yobuKristu ngoku icela onke amaKristu ukuba benze ezabo izimvo kudliwano-ndlebe, kwaye ngokunjalo yongeza amagama abo kubaphathiswa’ ileta. Ndingakukhuthaza ukuba wenze zombini. Oku akukho malunga nokuba ngubani onesibongozo esingcono: imalunga nokwenza konke esinako ukukhusela abantwana bethu nawo onke amalungelo ethu asisiseko.

Imibhalo esemazantsi

1. Kuyilo lokuqala lweli nqaku, oku kwabizwa ngempazamo ngokuthi ‘nguMthetho wezeMfundo.’ Icandelo 28 eneneni yayiligatya loMthetho kaRhulumente waseKhaya owawusalela (a) ixhaswa ngemali ngumasipala ukunyuswa lobufanasini kunye (b) ukufundisa kwizikolo ezigciniweyo ukuba ukunyuselwa ‘ukwamkeleka kobufanasini njengento yokuzenzisa usapho ubudlelwane’ (oko kukuthi. ngenjongo yokukhulisa abantwana).
2. “Iinzame zokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo, Amava Angathandekiyo Ebuntwaneni, kunye neNgcinga yokuzibulala kunye nokuLinga phakathi kwaBantu abaDala abaNcinane ngokwesondo, Amazwe Amanyene , 2016-2018”, ipapashwe kwi-intanethi yi-American Journal of Public Health (AJPH), 10 Isilimela 2020.
3. Sullins, UDonald, Iinzame zokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo (SOCE) *NGCISA* Ukuzibulala: Ukulungisa Ingxelo yoPhando olungeyonyani (EyoKwindla 16, 2021). Ifumaneka eSSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=3729353 okanye http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3729353.
4. “Izizukulwana. Uphononongo lobomi kunye nempilo yabantu be-LGB kuluntu olutshintshayo”, umthombo we-intanethi ngu-Ilan Meyer, okqhubekayo., iyafikeleleka kwi http://www.generations-study.com.
5. Meyer IH, Russell ST, Hammack PL, Iqabaka DM, Wilson BDM (2021) “Uxinzelelo oluncinci, imbandezelo, kunye neenzame zokuzibulala kumaqela amathathu abantu abadala abambalwa ngokwesondo: I-U.S. isampulu enokwenzeka." PLoS ENYE 16(3):e0246827.
6. Banikela uC, Lichtenstein P, Boman M, Johansson VAT, Langstrom N, okqhubekayo. (2011) “Ukulandelelwa kwexesha elide kwaBantu abaneSexual benziwa uTyando lokuReassignment ngokwesondo: Isifundo seQela eSweden.” PLoS ENYE 6(2): e16885. doi:10.1371/ijenali.pone.0016885 https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0246827
7. “I-X-OUT-LOUD — Amazwi asakhulayo e-Ex-LGBT” Iimbonakalo 44 amabali awodwa, ukusuka 22 amazwe, yamadoda nabasetyhini abashiya izazisi ze-LGBT, epapashwe yiCore Issues Trust, https://store.core-issues.org/product/x-out-loud-emerging-ex-lgbt-voices/.
8. Eyona njongo iphambili yale Memorandam yokuQonda, “ukukhuselwa koluntu ngokuzibophelela ekupheliseni umkhuba 'wonyango lokuguqula' e-UK.” Yi le, “igama lesambulela sendlela yonyango, okanye nayiphi na imodeli okanye imbono yomntu ebonisa ingcinga yokuba nakuphi na ukuziqhelanisa ngokwesini okanye isazisi sesini sikhethwa ngokwemvelo kunayo nayiphi na enye., nezama ukuzisa utshintsho kwindlela esizikhethela ngayo ngokwesondo okanye isini, okanye ijonge ukucinezela indlela umntu azibonakalisa ngayo ngokwesondo okanye isazisi sesini eso.” (Iziqendu ze-MOU 1 & 2).
9. Utyekelo lobufanasini olubangelwa kukufana ngokwesini okanye ukutshintshela kwisini ngokuqinisekileyo lunqabile kuba abathwali bohlobo olunjalo abaqhelekanga ukuzala..