Enye yezinto okunzima kakhulu ukuba siyiqonde ukuthi kunjani ngempela ukuba ngomunye umuntu. Kade ngimazi umkami 40 iminyaka; okwamanje, nakuba ngiye ngafunda ukuqonda ukuthi kunezinto ezithile ezimjabulisa kakhulu nezinye ezimbangela usizi, kusekhona izindawo lapho ngingaqagela khona ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela.

Sizama ukuzwelana nathi ngokuzikhumbuza okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu siqu okungenzeka kuye kwabangela imizwa efanayo. Kodwa ngokuvamile lezi azilingani nesimo, noma inkumbulo isifiphele kakhulu ukuba ibe usizo olwanele. Nokho ngezikhathi ezinjalo, into umuntu ajwayele ukuyifisa kakhulu akusona iseluleko: kodwa lowo mqondo olula wokuthi nangu umuntu ongakwazi ngempela ukuqonda indlela azizwa ngayo.

Inkinga iwukuthi, Angikwazi ukuzwa lokho ozizwayo ngoba angixhumene nawe ngendlela engiyiyo nomzimba wami. Uma ngishaya umunwe wami, Ngisosizini: kodwa uma wephula umlenze wakho angikwazi ukuwuzwa. Ngingazama kuphela ukuzwelana.

Okwethu, lokho cishe kunjalo. Ukube sibuzwile ngokoqobo ubuhlungu abasizungezile bekungaba, Ngiyacabanga, kube ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi kithina.

Noma kunjalo, kukhona umuntu ongaqonda ngokweqiniso.

UNkulunkulu Uxhumene

Ngaphambi kokuba kuvele izwi olimini lwami uyazi ngokuphelele, O NKOSI. (Psalm 139:4 NIV)

Umuntu angacasha yini ekusithekeni ukuze ngingamboni? usho uJehova. Angigcwalise izulu nomhlaba? usho uJehova. (Jeremiah 23:24)

Amehlo kaJehova akuzo zonke izindawo, ebuka ababi nabahle. (Proverbs 15:3)

Ngokuba siphila kuye, bese uhambisa, futhi sibe nobuntu bethu… (Acts 17:28)

Asikwazi ukuzwa imizwa yomunye umuntu, ngoba silinganiselwe ngokomzimba futhi asinakho ukuxhumana okuqondile kuzo. Ngisho nokwabelana ngemicabango yethu, kufanele sisebenzise izimpawu noma amagama. Kodwa uNkulunkulu ukuyo yonke indawo futhi ubona ngisho nemicabango yethu engakhulumi. Akakwazi nje ukukubona: Uyabona ngeso lakho. Uyakuzwa lokho okuzwayo futhi Uyakuzwa lokho okuzwayo.

Lapho uhlupheka, Uyahlupheka.

IBhayibheli linesibonelo esiphawulekayo salesi simiso.

Ngimelene nawe, wena kuphela, ngonile, ngenze okubi emehlweni akho, ukuze ubonakaliswe ulungile ekukhulumeni kwakho, ulungisiswe ekwahluleleni kwakho. (Psalm 51:4 NIV).

La mazwi avela emthandazweni weNkosi uDavide lapho isanda kubhekana noNathani umprofethi mayelana nendaba yakhe noBhati Sheba.. UDavide, ebone le ntokazi enhle, wayesebenzise kabi igunya lakhe ukuze ambizele esigodlweni sakhe. Lokhu kwenzeka naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi wayengumka-Uriya, isikhulu esithenjwayo nesinesibindi ebuthweni likaDavide, ngaleso sikhathi owayekhiphe ukuphila kwakhe engozini enkonzweni kaDavide. Lapho esekhulelwe, UDavide waqala wazama ukwenza kube sengathi u-Uriya uyise. Lapho lelo cebo lihluleka, Wathumela umyalo wokuba u-Uriya ahlatshwe ngamabomu empini. (Ukuze uthole indaba egcwele bheka 2 Samuel 11:2 – 12:25.)

Ngakho leli vesi lalivame ukungiphazamisa ngempela. Ngabona ukuthi inkulu indaba, ngokuqondene noNkulunkulu, uDavide wakhaphela u-Uriya. Kodwa emhlabeni kungaba kanjani isono kuNkulunkulu yedwa? Kuthiwani ngo-Uriya ompofu? Ukube wayazi ukuthi yini uDavide, inkosi yakhe, ayezinikele kakhulu kuye, wayenza ngemuva - noma uma ezikhathini zakhe zokugcina, njengoba elele efa enkundleni yempi, wayazi ukuthi lokhu kwakungokomyalo kaDavide, u-Uriya ayemthwalele yena enduneni yebutho likaDavide – ngabe lokhu kwakuyombangela ubuhlungu bani?

Kodwa nakhu okwenza le ndaba ibaluleke kangaka. U-Uriya wayengabuzwa ubuhlungu bokukhashelwa ekufeni kwakhe ngoba wayengazi lokho uDavide ayekwenzile. Kodwa uNkulunkulu wayekwazi futhi wakuzwa; futhi Wakuthatha njengomuntu siqu njengokungathi isenzo senziwe kuye. Futhi uDavide, lapho uNkulunkulu esebhekane naye ngobukhulu balokho ayekwenzile, naye wakubona lokhu; futhi kanjalo washo lomkhuleko ongavamile, ‘Ngimelene nawe, wena kuphela, ngonile, ngenze okubi emehlweni akho.’

Phawula ukuthi lokhu akusho ukuthi uNkulunkulu ngokuvamile uwukuphela kwesisulu sezenzo zethu ezimbi. IBhayibheli liqukethe izimfundiso eziningi mayelana nokwamukela umthwalo wemfanelo ngemiphumela yezenzo zethu kwabanye, nasekubuyiseleni kubo ngangokunokwenzeka. Kodwa elikubonisayo ukuthi uzwa ubuhlungu bethu ngokuphelele kangakanani - ngisho nangokwengeziwe, ngezikhathi, kunathi thina. UJesu uveza iphuzu elifanayo emfanekisweni wezimvu nezimbuzi Matthew 25:31-46; ‘njengoba wenza (noma akenzanga) kwenzeni komunye walaba abancinyane … ukwenzile kimi.’

Yonke injabulo owake wazizwa, Uye wazizwa futhi wajabula kanye nawe. Futhi konke ukulimala nokuthukwa owake wahlupheka, Naye wahlupheka. Akugcini lapho, kodwa wabuye wezwa futhi wakuqonda konke ukukhungatheka nobuhlungu obaqhuba labo abakuzwisa ubuhlungu ukuba babe yilokho ababeyikho futhi benze lokho abakwenzile.. Kumele kube njani, njengoNkulunkulu, ngempela ukuzwa wonke amathemba, ukwesaba, injabulo kanye nezinhlungu zawo wonke umuntu kule planethi? Angikwazi nokuqala ukucabanga: kepha, ngenhlanhla, Angilindelekile.

Ukuxhumana kuyi-Two-way Street

Ubudali

Ngesikhathi izingane zami zizalwa zazingakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ngingubani nokuthi ngizizwa kanjani ngazo: kodwa ekukhuleni kwabo, kwakujabulisa ukubona lowo muzwa wobudlelwane ukhula, nokuthi bangigaxe entanyeni bese bethi, 'Ngiyakuthanda, Ubaba.’ Empeleni angenzanga okuningi kakhulu ukubaletha emhlabeni. Umkami wenza okuningi kakhulu: nokho sobabili empeleni sasiyizibukeli zenqubo emangalisayo esasingakwazi ukuyilawula ngokuqondile. Nokho lezo zibopho zokusebenzisana zibangele ukuba ngitshale ingxenye enkulu yempilo yami kuzo; futhi, nakuba sebezimele manje, bahlala bebaluleke ngendlela emangalisayo kimina.

Ngake ngaba nenja eyazalwa inamahips womabili. Kwadingeka ngigunyaze ukuhlinzwa okubili okuqinile okwakuzoyishiya ikhubazekile izinyanga ngesikhathi: kodwa ngethemba lokugcina lempilo ende nesebenzayo. Ngalezo zinyanga, Ngabuka lomdlwane ubhodla ngokudabukisayo ngale ndawo, futhi lokho engangikwenzile kwaklebhula enhliziyweni yami. Wayehlala esaba ukuya kudokotela wezilwane ngemva kwalokho (nakuba engakaze akhombise ngisho nokungethembani ngokumyisa lapho). Ngangifisa ukukwazi ukumchazela ukuthi kungani ngenze lokhu engikwenzile: kodwa engangingakwenza kwakuwukumduduza kwaze kwafika isikhathi lapho ayekwazi khona ukuthi agxume njengonogwaja ukuze abambe i-frisbee yakhe ayithandayo..

Kuzo zombili izimo, Ngathola ukuthi nginokungaphezu nje kwesifiso sokuqonda, babheke futhi bafake ezimpilweni zabo. Engangikufuna ngaphezu kwakho konke kwakuwukuba nobudlelwano obubili bothando nokuqondana. Ikhono lami lokuqonda nokulolonga izimpilo zabo lalilinganiselwe: nokho ngokwezinga ukuphila kwami ​​okwakuhlanganiswe ngakho nokwabo ngathola ukuthi nganginalesi sifiso hhayi nje sokuqonda indlela abazizwa ngayo., kodwa ukwazi ukuxhumana nabo ngendlela enenjongo.

Angikaze ngikwazi ukuchazela inja yami, kunjalo; nakuba sajabulela iminyaka eminingi egcwele ubumnandi ndawonye. Kodwa ubudlelwano bami nabantwana bami buyaqhubeka bujula njengoba manje sixoxa ngezigigaba zazo zenjabulo kanye nezilingo zokuba umzali.

Akukhona yini-ke okunengqondo ukucabanga ukuthi uNkulunkulu ngokufanayo angafisa ubuhlobo obunenjongo bezindlela ezi-2 nalezo zidalwa azinikeze amandla okuqaphela, ukuqonda nothando? Futhi akukhona yini okunengqondo futhi ukuphetha ngokuthi uNkulunkulu owazi yonke imicabango yethu kumelwe abe namandla okuqhubeka nobuhlobo obunjalo nanoma ubani obufisayo??

Umfazi angakhohlwa yini umntanakhe osancela, ukuze angabi lesihawu endodaneni yesizalo sakhe? Yebo, laba bangase bakhohlwe, nokho angiyikukukhohlwa! (Isaiah, 49:15)

uJesu, emfanekisweni wakhe odumile weNdodana yolahleko, uveza uNkulunkulu njengobaba, elahlwa yindodana yakhe, othi nokho aqhubeke ebhekile futhi enethemba lokubuya kwakhe. Kuze kube usuku olulodwa, embona ekude, waphonsa isithunzi sakhe emoyeni ‘… wagijima wawela entanyeni yakhe wamanga,’ (Luke 15:20).

Ingabe Uzokwamukela Ukuxhumana?

Esikhathini esedlule, uma ungenayo imali yocingo ungashayela opharetha; owabe eseshayela lowo ofuna ukukhuluma naye, wachaza ukuthi ubani ofonayo, wabuza, ‘Uzokwamukela ukuxhumana?’ Kube nezindleko ezihilelekile (nakuba ngokuvamile inzuzo yayiyidlula kude inkokhiso): ngakho-ke ucingo aluzange luxhunywe ngaphandle kwemvume yomamukeli.

Akukho okungavimba uNkulunkulu ukuthi azi konke ngawe: kodwa ukukhetha mayelana nokuba nobudlelwano bezindlela ezi-2 kungokwakho. Kukhona izindleko. Kuhilela ukufunda ukubona izinto ngendlela uNkulunkulu azibheka ngayo - futhi lokho kungaba nzima ngezinye izikhathi. Kodwa izinzuzo zizidlula kude izindleko. Futhi uNkulunkulu ngokwakhe ukhokhe inani eliphakeme kakhulu kunaleso engixoxe ngalo lapha ukuze enze lokhu kwenzeke kithi. Kodwa lokho kuyisihloko sokunye okuthunyelwe…