Kungani Ukuguqulwa Kwezokwelapha Ukuvinjwa Kufanele Kumiswe

Lapho isigaba 28 yoMthetho woHulumeni baseKhaya¹ yachithwa, e 2003, satshelwa ukuthi lokhu ukuvimbela ukuxhashazwa kwezitabane. Abanye bethu baxwayise ngokuthi lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ingxenye 28 yaklanyelwe kuphela ukuvimbela ukusatshalaliswa kwezinto ezihloselwe khuthaza ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT: futhi hhayi ukwenza ukuphazamisa imizamo yokukhuthaza ukubekezelelana nokuqonda abantu abancane ngokocansi. Kodwa sanganakwa. Ngolunye usuku, indodakazi yomngane engakafiki eshumini nambili yafika ekhaya ivela esikoleni ibuza, “Ngazi kanjani ukuthi ngiyintombazane?” Kepha manje, uhulumeni wase-UK usuzo enze icala noma yimuphi umzamo wokuyenga abantu abasha endleleni yokuphila yobungqingili noma yokushintsha ubulili. Ukubonisana okusemthethweni’ iyaphela mhlaka 4 February 2022: kodwa i umbhalo wangempela wokuxoxisana ifundeka njenge-manifesto ye-Stonewall futhi ikubeka ngokucacile lokho, “Uhulumeni intando vimbela ukwelashwa kokuguqulwa. Azikho izizathu zalokhu ophoqelelayo futhi onengekayo imikhuba kanye nobufakazi busobala ukuthi ayisebenzi.” (Ukuqalisa, isitatimende sokuvula, okwami ​​lokugcizelela.)

Ungangizwa kabi. Ngangixhashazwa ‘njengocissy’ (futhi kamuva 'i-homo') phakathi neminyaka yami yokuqala. Ngiyaqonda ukuthi kunjani ukufuna ukuba ‘okuvamile;’ kodwa uzithola engakwazi nhlobo ukushintsha indlela ahamba ngayo futhi agcine esecabanga ukuzibulala. Nokho, kwami, konke kwashintsha ngemva nje kokuba umKristu at 14. Ngathola ukuthi uthando lukaNkulunkulu lwalunamandla kakhulu kunezinkanuko zobulili; futhi namuhla ngingumkhulu ojabule emshadweni wami! Kodwa ukube ngake ngachayeka ochungechungeni oluqhubekayo lwenkulumo-ze ye-LGBT ephonswa ezikoleni zethu nakwemithombo yezindaba yentsha namuhla ngiyangabaza kakhulu ukuthi bengingakwazi yini ukumelana nale nkathi isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuze ngithole ukuthi ngingubani ngempela..

Okungiletha kweyami yokuqala, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, isizathu sokuthi kungani lokhu kuxoxisana kufanele kuchithwe…

The Deep You Go, Kunzima ukuphuma.

Okwami ​​ulwazi ngaphambi kokuguqulwa akuzange kungiqhubekisele phambili ngaphandle kokuzihlola: nokho ngangiluthekile futhi ngiqiniseka ukuthi akukho engingakwenza ukuze ngiphule lokhu. Kodwa, ngamangala, kwadingeka umthandazo owodwa kuphela, ngenkathi ngiphansi kwedwala, ukwephula ukungibambela lokhu kimi. Nokho, ukuqonda kwami ​​ubulili nothando kwakumoshekile kangangokuthi kwathatha 4 iminyaka yokuzithiba ngokuphelele ngaphambi kokuba ngiphulukiswe ngokwanele ngisho nokuba cabanga mayelana nokwenzeka kobudlelwane bocansi obujwayelekile.

Ukube uhulumeni ubenendlela yakhe, Kunalokho ngabe ngikhona ngenkani ukuqhubeka ujule empilweni yobungqingili noma ye-transgender yalabo 4 iminyaka! Ucabanga ukuthi kwakuyoba nzima kangakanani ngaleso sikhathi?

Izindlela Zokuphila ze-LGBT Zibandakanya Izingozi Ezinkulu Kakhulu

Kuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi ‘ukwelashwa kokuguqula’ kumele ivalwe ngoba iyingozi; izinsolo ezivame kakhulu ukuthi kwandisa ingozi yokuzibulala. Umbiko we-Coventry, ethunywe uhulumeni ukuthi asekele ukubonisana kwakhe, yenza ucwaningo oluningi oluthi imicabango yokuzibulala phakathi kwalabo ‘ababenokwelashwa kokuguqula’ babe kabili njengokuvamile phakathi kwalabo ababengazange.² (Empeleni, ukuthi isifundo inamaphutha amakhulu; kanye nokuhlolwa kabusha kokuqagela kwayo okuyiphutha empeleni kusikisela ukuthi ngisho kwehlulekile ngokuvamile izindlela zokwelapha ziphumela kwezinye ukunciphisa lokuthambekela kokuzibulala.³) Kodwa noma ngabe bekuyiqiniso, lokhu kuqhathaniswa kanjani nengcuphe yokuzibulala evela ezindleleni zokuphila ze-LGBT? Ukuhlolwa okuphelele kwalo mbuzo kubantu be-LGB - ukuhlaziywa kwe-US 'Generations’ Idatha yokufunda⁴ olwenziwa abacwaningi be-pro-LGB - baphetha ngokuthi izigameko zemicabango yokuzibulala seziphelile kasikhombisa inkulu kunoontanga abangebona abe-LGB!⁵ Kubi kakhulu - ucwaningo lwesiSwidi okwangempela ukuzibulala kulandela ukuhlinzwa reassignment ucansi bathola izinga kwaba izikhathi eziyishumi nesishiyagalolunye lokho kontanga yabo okungeyona i-LGBT!⁶

Pho kungani Ukubonisana kugxile ekuvimbeleni ‘ukwelashwa kokuguqula’ ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngengozi enkulu kakhulu ebangelwa ukuthuthukiswa kwezinto ze-LGBT ezikoleni?

50 Iminyaka Yemithetho Ye-Pro-LGBT Yehlulekile

Kodwa, okuveza nakakhulu kunezibalo ezilula zokuzibulala, ucwaningo olucashunwe ku [5] ngenhla yakhelwe ukuhlola okulindelekile ukuthuthukiswa kwendawo yenhlalo yabantu be-LGB ngenxa yalokho 50 iminyaka yokuguqulwa kwezomthetho bekuyoholela ekuthuthukisweni kwezinga lempilo yabo. Lokhu bakwenze ngokuqhathanisa imiphumela yocwaningo lwe 3 iminyaka ehlukahlukene.’ Kodwa iziphetho zabo zazinjalo (okwami ​​lokugcizelela):

“Sithole umehluko omkhulu futhi ohlaba umxhwele weqembu ekuphumeni okubalulekile, namalungu eqembu elincane eliphuma ngaphambi kwesikhathi kakhulu kunamalungu amaqoqo amabili amadala. Kodwa sathola kungekho izimpawu zokuthi isimo senhlalo esithuthukisiwe sinciphise ukuchayeka kwabo ezicindezelweni ezincane-kokubili izingcindezi ezikude, njengodlame nokucwasa, kanye nama-proximal stressors, njengokuzonda abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo kanye nokulindela ukwenqatshwa. Ukucindezeleka kwengqondo kanye ukuzibulala ukuziphatha nakho kwaba -I ngcono, futhi ngempela babe okubi kakhulu kwabancane kumaqembu amadala.”

“Sithole ukonakala okusobala eqenjini elincane elibonakala lihlukile kubantu abambalwa ngokocansi. Ucwaningo luphinde lwabonisa ukuthi akukho ukuchema okubalulekile ekubikeni kwamaphethini kulesi sikali okungachaza iphethini yemiphumela yethu.”

“Okutholakele kwethu akuhambelani ngokusobala ne-hypothesis.“

Abacwaningi bazama ukuchaza lokhu okutholakele ngokuphakamisa ukuthi, “Khuluma ngokukhuthazela kwemibono yamasiko enjengokuzonda abantu bobulili obufanayo kanye nokubandlulula abantu bobulili obuhlukile nokuhambisana nokwenqatshwa nobudlova obubhekiswe kwabancane bobulili.” Kodwa, kuyilapho kuyiqiniso ukuthi ukungenelela kukahulumeni okugqugquzelwe yi-LGBT kungenzeka kudale umuzwa wokucasuka komphakathi kwezinye izindawo., ngokuyinhloko kunomuzwa omkhulu wokubekezelelana komphakathi kunangaphambili. Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi siqale ukubhekana nokwenzeka lokho, naphezu kokuthuthukiswa komphakathi kanye nokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha okuthuthukisiwe kakhulu, abaningi abenza ongqingili baye bamane -I bathola ukugcwaliseka ababekulindele.

Kwenziwani Ngempela?

Izingxoxo zithi, “Iziphakamiso zethu zisemhlabeni wonke futhi zivikela wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bathambekele kuphi kwezocansi nokuthi bashintshe ubulili noma cha.” Kodwa konke yocwaningo ephepheni elijutshwe ngokukhethekile, “Ukwelashwa kokuguqula: ukuhlolwa kobufakazi kanye nocwaningo lwekhwalithi” (ngemuva kwalokhu okubizwa ngokuthi yi- “Coventry umbiko”) igxile kule ncazelo elandelayo: “Ubufakazi buphakamisa ukuthi izinhlobo zesimanje zokwelapha ukuguqula ngokuvamile zisekelwe enkolelweni yokuthi ubulili obufanayo kanye nobunikazi be-transgender yizinkinga zentuthuko., imilutha noma izinkinga ezingokomoya.” (Coventry umbiko, 1.2.1, “Ukwelashwa kokuguqula kuthatha ziphi amafomu?“) Ukubonisana kuyasho ngokufanayo ukuthi “Okusemthethweni ukukhuluma izindlela zokwelapha ezeseka umuntu obuzayo ukuthi ngabe uyi-LGBT ungenzi qala ngesisekelo sokuthi ukuba yi-LGBT kuyisici noma ukuntula” (Ingemuva, 4th kwe. (#37), okwami ​​lokugcizelela. Ukuqaqa lolu limi olungacacile, futhi kusho ukuthi noma yikuphi ukwelashwa okungaqali kusukela ekucabangeni ukuthi ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT kuyikho evamile ngokuphelele ngizo engekho emthethweni.) Nakhu alukho nhlobo ucwaningo noma ingxoxo kwemithelela engaba khona kanye nobungozi bokufundiswa kwe-pro-LGBT. Ngakho, kuyilapho lokhu kungakhiphi ngokuphelele ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi imizamo yokuguqula umuntu abe yimpilo ye-LGBT ingase ibe nesibopho sokushushiswa., kucace kakhulu ukuthi inhloso eyinhloko womthetho ohlongozwayo uku enze icala noma yikuphi ukwelapha okuveza umbono wokuthi ubungqingili kufanele kube ngokwethu evamile, okungokwemvelo noma okuzenzakalelayo ebudlelwaneni bocansi babantu.

Uma lokho bekungekubi ngokwanele, uhulumeni uye wafuna ngamabomu ukwenza ihaba nokukhuthaza ukucwasa kulabo abangabaza imfundiso ye-LGBT, ikakhulukazi ngokufaka uphawu lokuguqulwa komkhiqizo izikhathi eziningana njenge “ophoqelelayo futhi onengekayo” kanye nokufuna ukukuhlobanisa emiqondweni yabantu nemikhuba efana nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okuxhaswa uhulumeni, Imithi yokwelapha yokucasuka, ECT, ukuthenwa (futhi ngisho ‘nokuqondisa’ ukudlwengula) - bonke ababekhona, kahle impela, ivinjelwe emashumini eminyaka edlule! Ngisho nokukhethwa kwegama, ‘ukwelashwa kokuguqula’ kubonakala kuhloswe ngamabomu ukuhlobanisa imikhuba enjalo nemizamo yokucindezela abantu ukuba bashintshe izinkolelo zabo. NjengoMike Freer MP, UNgqongqoshe Wezokulingana utshele iKomidi labesifazane nokuLingana mayelana 30 Nov 21, “Bengicabanga ukuthi idokhumenti yokubonisana ithambile kakhulu. Ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi kwakungeyona imidwebo ngokwanele. Ingozi ngokukhuluma ngokwelashwa kokukhuluma ukuthi konke kuzwakala kungenangqondo. Ubani ongaphikisa ukwelashwa kokukhuluma? Bengifuna ukuthi ibe ingcaca kakhudlwana.”

Inhloso eyinhloko yalo mthetho ngu -I izenzo zomzimba: yi izinkolelo ukuthi sikhuthaze abanye ukuthi balandele.

Kungani Lokhu Kwenzakala?

Ngikhuluma ngesipiliyoni sami, ngisemusha akekho noyedwa owake wangitshela ukuthi ukuziphatha kwe-LGBT kwakungavamile. Kodwa kuthatha kuphela ukuqonda okuyisisekelo kakhulu ngocansi kanye nebhayoloji yomuntu ukubona ukuthi imizimba yethu yakhelwe ubudlelwano bobulili obuhlukile.. Ngazizwa ngingakhangwa ngamantombazane; futhi ngangizonda kakhulu impoqo eyayingiqhubezela ekuziphatheni okwakumane kungilethele ukukhululeka kwesikhashana ngaphambi kokubuya nginamandla kunangaphambili.. Umphumela waba, kalula nje, umuzwa ojulile wehlazo; futhi ngacasuka kakhulu - futhi ngaphika ngamandla - noma yikuphi ukusikisela kokuthi 'ngiyindlovukazi,’ njll.. Ezingqungqutheleni eziningi zomuntu siqu kanye nezinye izikhathi phakathi neminyaka ngibone isidingo sokumboza lo muzwa wangaphakathi wehlazo njengento eyinhloko ekhuthazayo emphakathini wezitabane.. Yona kanye incazelo yalesi sifinyezo ('Kuhle Ngawe') kanye nokukhuthazwa kwe-'Gay Pride’ izehlakalo zixoxa indaba efanayo. Lokhu kuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi 'i-internalized homophobia': kodwa ngokwenza, ngokuvamile akwenziwa kakhulu ‘ngaphakathi’ ngokuthi ‘ngaphakathi’ noma ngisho ‘okungokwemvelo.’ Ngakho-ke kulabo abazizwa bevaleleke endleleni yokuphila ye-LGBT zimbalwa izinto ezibuhlungu njengokukhunjuzwa leyo mizwa yehlazo - ikakhulukazi uma uke wazama 'ikhambi.’ futhi akusebenzanga.

Can 'Conversion Therapy’ Sebenza?

-Buye, ngokwami ​​ngokwami ​​​​ngingasho ukuthi iyakwenza; futhi cishe ukuphela kosizo lomuntu enganginalo kwakuvela kumfundisi owaba nesibindi sokukhomba umsuka wenkinga yami futhi wangikhuthaza ukuba ngithandaze. Kodwa kufanele ngisho ukuthi ukugqashula endleleni yokuphila yobungqingili noma yokuthanda ubulili obuhlukile kungenzeka kube njalo kakhulu nzima ngezinye izikhathi. Umuzwa wemvelo wocansi - noma yiluphi uhlobo locansi - unamandla kakhulu; futhi uma umuntu engaqinisekanga ukuthi ukuphila nothando kungaphezu nje kokwaneliseka ngokobulili cishe ngeke aphikelele.. Anginakho ‘ukuguqulwa kwesitabane’ inkonzo; empeleni ngike ngaba nokusebenzelana okuningi nabantu ababeyimilutha yezidakamizwa kunabangaphambili be-LGBT. Kodwa ngiye ngatshela ababeyimilutha ukuthi ukuphuma endleleni ye-LGBT kunzima kunokuyeka izidakamizwa. Umlutha wezidakamizwa ungakhetha ukulahla izidakamizwa futhi ugweme abaphusha: kodwa i-LGBT yangaphambili kufanele njalo ihambe nomzimba wayo. Ngike ngabona labo ababeyimilutha bebuyela emuva kokubili ekuphuzeni izidakamizwa noma emikhubeni ye-LGBT - izikhathi ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba bagqashule.. Futhi, kunjalo, Ngihlangane nabaningi abangakayitholi inkululeko. Kodwa, yebo, yona kwenza umsebenzi⁷; futhi nginguye ngakho ngibonga uNkulunkulu ngokungikhulula!

Ukwelapha Okuhle Nokubi

Kwami, njengabo bonke abantu bakudala be-LGBT engibaziyo uqobo, okubaluleke kakhulu kwakuwukwazi ukuthi uthando lwangempela aluphathelene nobulili. Kwakukhona uNkulunkulu owayengithanda ngentshiseko njengoba nje nganginjalo, nakuba kusobala ukuthi kukhona izinto ayefuna ukuzishintsha empilweni yami. Ukuqinisekiswa kwenani elingaphakathi lomuntu njengomuntu linjalo kakhulu kubalulekile; futhi ikakhulukazi kumuntu ojwayele ukuphila ngamahloni. Kodwa lokhu akusho ngempela ukuthi kumelwe sivumele zonke izenzo zabo noma siphakamise ukuthi yonke into ephathelene nokuphila kwabo ‘yinhle.’ Kulula kakhulu ukwenza ibhalansi ibe yiphutha futhi ilimaze noma idukise kunokusiza; yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqhathanisa izindlela zokwelapha ezahlukene futhi ufunde emiphumeleni yazo.

Ngokujwayelekile, lokhu kungafezwa ngokushintshana kwamahhala kolwazi, imibono kanye nemiphumela phakathi kwezinhlaka zobungcweti. Kodwa endabeni yokwelashwa kokushintsha ubulili kunokuntuleka okusobala kobufakazi bokuhlola. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, iminyaka eminingi, Amaqembu e-LGBT agxile ekwehliseni isithunzi nokuthulisa labo abathi ushintsho lungenzeka. Cishe alukho ucwaningo olwenziwe olubheka izindlela ezahlukene zokwelulekwa kanye nezisusa zalabo abafuna ukwelashwa.. Ngisho nenhlolovo yeGenerations imane yahlukanisa phakathi kwempatho kubantu abangebona abezenkolo nabaholi bezenkolo futhi - ngokugxekayo - yabekela ukuhlaziya kwehlulekile zokwelapha ngokufaka kuphela labo ababekhona okwamanje bathi yi-LGB. Kodwa, kusukela 2015, lapho abagqugquzeli be-LGB beqala ngokuncenga iningi lezinhlangano ezingochwepheshe zokwelulekwa ukuthi zibhalisele ‘Imemorandamu Yokuqondisisa yazo enconyiwe.’⁸, isimo besilokhu sibi kakhulu. Noma yimuphi umelaphi onesibindi sokuphonsela inselelo ifilosofi ye-LGBT manje kuvinjelwe kusuka ekusebenzeni kochwepheshe, noma ngisho nokukhangisa ngezinkonzo zabo. Lokhu kwenze ucwaningo olunzulu lungenzeki.

Amaqembu abelaphi angabhalisi ku-MoU asekhona, kunjalo, njenge I-International Federation for Therapeutic and Counselling Choice (ifc); osanda kuba nochungechunge lwesayensi eLondon, ukuveza amaphutha esayensi asobala embikweni kahulumeni waseCoventry. Indawo yalokhu bekufanele igcinwe iyimfihlo kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina ngenxa yengozi yokucekelwa phansi yizishoshovu ze-LGBT.: kodwa okurekhodiwe kwamaseshini manje kungabukwa lapha.

Kusukela kwethulwa i-MoU, olunye ushintsho olugqugquzelwe yiqembu le-lobby lwenziwe kuyo: manje okubangela ukwehlukana okukhulu phakathi kwamaqembu ahlukene e-LGB kanye ne-LGBT. Ukuze uthole i-akhawunti enemininingwane yokuthi konke lokhu kwenzeke kanjani, naphezu kokuntuleka kokuvumelana kwesayensi kwangempela, ukubona lapha.

Impela, kuye kwaba nezimo lapho ukwelapha kuye kwabonakala kungasizi; ngezinye izikhathi ngenxa yezindlela zokwelapha ezingezinhle, ngezinye izikhathi ukuntula ukuqonda inkimbinkimbi, kanye nesikhathi esidingekayo, inqubo yokuphulukisa futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuntuleka kokulandelela uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka. Kodwa, njengoSullins’ ukuhlaziya kubonisiwe, ngisho kwehlulekile izindlela zokwelapha ngokuvamile zaziphumela kuncishisiwe ukuzibulala (ngokunokwenzeka ngokuqinisekisa ukuqiniseka komuntu ngobuyena bangempela). Kunezizathu eziqinile zokuncoma ucwaningo olunzulu ukuze kutholwe izindlela zokwelulekwa ezifanele kakhulu nezikhiqizayo kunoma yisiphi isimo kanye nokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ababambiqhaza baziswa ngokufanelekile mayelana namandla okuphumelela kokubili impumelelo nokwehluleka kwanoma ikuphi ukwelashwa.. Kufanele kube nokuhlinzekelwa kwabantu, noma ngisho nesigebengu, izinhlawulo uma abantu bemelela kabi izinsiza abazihlinzekayo, noma isinxephezelo uma kwenzeka ingozi noma ukunganakwa; ngakho-ke kunecala elihle lokusungula uhlaka lokulawula oluvulekile noluziphendulela. Izindlela zokwelapha zasemuva zingandisa kuphela ingozi yezingozi. Iziphakamiso zikahulumeni zizoba nomthelela wokusivimba ukuthi sifunde amaqiniso kungakephuzi kakhulu.

Ingabe Kufanele Izingane zikhuthazwe ukuba zibe yimpilo ye-LGBT?

I-Memorandum of Understanding ihlose ukuvimbela noma yikuphi ukwelapha lokho “kukhombisa ukucabanga ukuthi noma yikuphi ukukhetha ocansini noma ubunikazi bobulili ngokwemvelo buncanyelwa kunoma yikuphi okunye.” Nokho ubufakazi besayensi busobala ukuthi i-genome yomuntu injalo kulungiselelwe ngokwemvelo ukuthanda ubudlelwano bobulili obuhlukile. Ngaphansi kwakho konke evamile izimo, abantu banenhlanganisela ye-chromosome ye-XY noma ye-XX, okubangela amaphethini omzimba wesilisa noma wesifazane, ngokulandelana. Ngakho-ke, ucansi ngokomzimba ngokujwayelekile kulungiswe ekuzalweni: kodwa izimo ezingavamile, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kanye nokuthomba, ngezinye izikhathi kungaholela ekuboniseni izici zomzimba zobulili obuhlukile noma ukucindezelwa kwezici ezivamile. Lezi zimo ezingokomzimba zokuhlangana kobulili azivamile⁹, ngokuvamile kubi, futhi ingadinga imithi yokulungisa noma ukuhlinzwa; okwenza kube nengqondo ngokuphelele ukuwachaza njengamaphutha noma amaphutha.

Ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokuthomba, kuvamile ukuba izingane zizibuze ukuthi kungani zazalwa zingamadoda noma abesifazane. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abanye 60-70% kwenze ngezinga elithile: kodwa iningi lizoba nomzimba wesilisa noma wesifazane osebenza ngokujwayelekile; futhi bayobe sebekwamukele lokhu lapho besanda kweva eminyakeni engu-20, ngaphandle kokungenelela kokwelapha. Nokho, ukuthomba kuphinde kube yisikhathi lapho noma yiziphi izimo ezingacacile zobulili obuhlukile ezingase zibonakale: ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi izinsizakalo zokuhlolwa kochwepheshe zitholakale uma lokhu kusolwa.

Ngaphandle kwezici eziyinhloko zobulili zowesilisa nowesifazane, izakhi zethu zofuzo zisinikeza izici ezihlukahlukene kakhulu, kuhlanganise nezimvume ezincane zokwakheka komzimba nombala, ukuhluka okukhulu kobude, isisindo namandla, ukucupha kwezinzwa, amakhono engqondo ngisho ‘nemvelo engokwemvelo’ ukuziphatha. Kukhona nobufakazi bokuthi ezinye izici ezihlobene nobulili zesibili zihlotshaniswa nezakhi zofuzo ezingahlali kuma-chromosome X noma Y.. Okunye kwalokhu kungase kuthinte izici, njengokuthi 'i-thrust’ i-reflex, ezinomthelela othile ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni kocansi. Futhi ziningi ezinye izici zomuntu, njengokuthambekela kokuthatha ingozi, ukuziphatha okunolaka, uzwela, njll., okuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nobulili obubodwa kunobunye futhi okungenzeka kube nengxenye yofuzo.

Umphumela uwuchungechunge olubanzi lwezici ezihlobene nofuzo kusukela ku-‘effeminate’ amadoda ‘ukubhuqa’ abesifazane. Lezi zinhlobonhlobo zijwayelekile futhi zijwayelekile ngokuphelele: kodwa ukucabangela ngokwedlulele ngokwesiko kungabangela ukucwaswa kwalabo abanenhlanganisela yezici zesibili ezijwayeleke kakhulu zabobulili obuhlukile futhi kuholele ekubuzeni ‘uqobo lwalowo muntu.’ ubulili. Kuleli zinga, Ukuphikisa kwe-LGBT ku-stereotyping yocansi akukhona ngaphandle kwezizathu ezizwakalayo. Kodwa abukho ubufakazi bokuthi kukhona ‘izakhi zofuzo zezitabane.’ Akukho ukwehluka kofuzo okwaziwayo, ngaphandle kwe-XY chromosomes, ziye zaboniswa njengezinkomba ezinokwethenjelwa zokukhetha ubulili. Ngisho emaweleni afana nofuzo, uma umuntu enquma ukushintsha ucansi, amathuba okuthi omunye enze njalo mancane kunalokhu 1 e 3.

Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi okwenza abantu bahluke njengezinhlobo zezilwane zethu ukuzivumelanisa nezimo. Siyazazi thina, yabanye, indawo yethu kanye nomthelela esingaba nawo kukho; ngokwezinga esingakwazi ngalo khipha imizwelo yethu yemvelo lapho kudingeka futhi sifune izindlela zokuxhaphaza noma zokunxephezela amandla ethu emvelo nobuthakathaka. Futhi, njengoba sikhula, asimane nje silolonge ufuzo nezimo zethu; sifinyelela ekuboneni ukuthi ukuphila kwethu kuvame ukulolongwa ngokujule kakhulu ngokwethu ukukhetha futhi ngalokho thina kholwani ukuba yiqiniso.

Kulokhu kuxhumana, kubalulekile ukuvuma umphumela wokukhuliswa, ikakhulukazi ukubaluleka kokunganakwa kwabazali, ukuhlukumezeka nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Ingane izosabela ezimweni ezinjalo, efuna induduzo, uthando nokuvuma; futhi lokhu kungaholela kalula ekusungulweni kwemikhuba nezinkolelo ezingase zidale ukuhlanekezelwa kwesikhathi eside kokuthambekela kobulili okungokwemvelo kwengane..

Imiphumela yokuncenga ingane ephile saka ngokobulili ukuba ikholwe ukuthi kufanele ishintshele kolunye ubulili iyinhlekelele. Kuhilela inzalo unomphela, ukucekelwa phansi kwezitho ezinempilo kanye nokufakwa esikhundleni sazo esikhundleni esingasoze salingisa isipiliyoni somzimba sokuba nomzimba wobulili obuhlukile.. Akumangalisi ukuthi izinga lokuzibulala liphezulu ngendlela eshaqisayo! Uma noma yiluphi uhlobo lokwelapha lokuguqula kufanele lwenziwe olungekho emthethweni, lokhu kungaba yikho!

Kuthiwani ngobutabane? Lena inkinga enzima kakhulu ukuyixazulula; njengoba kuncike kakhulu ekutheni umuntu uyakholwa ngabo. Abantu abaningi abathambekele ebungqingilini bahlushwa imizwa yehlazo ngoba bayabona ukuthi kuphambene nomklamo wabo wemvelo.. Bangakwazi-ke ukuyengwa kalula yi- “Ngilungile – Ngisemzimbeni ongalungile nje” ifilosofi ye-transgender extremists. Noma, uma umuntu ekholelwa ukuthi impilo yakhe iwumphumela wenhlanhla eyimpumputhe, bangase bakhethe noma iyiphi indlela ebanika injabulo engokomzimba kakhulu. Kodwa uma othile ekholelwa ukuthi isimo sakhe somzimba sihloselwe ukubonisa injongo kaNkulunkulu yokuphila kwakhe: khona-ke kuyadingeka ukuqala ukubuza imibuzo ejulile mayelana nobudlelwano phakathi kothando lwangempela nokukhangwa ngokocansi (ukubona Inhloso Yothando.) Kodwa okwamanje ngizomane ngikuphinde lokho, uma umuntu efuna ukugqashula ezenzweni zocansi, badinga kuqala ukuthola umehluko phakathi kothando lobulili nolwaphezulu: nokuthi uNkulunkulu ubathanda ngentshiseko, ngisho nawo wonke amaphutha abo!

Iphupho Elibi Lamalungelo Abantu

Uhulumeni uthi iziphakamiso zakhe zihlonipha amalungelo abantu. Eqinisweni, bayiphupho elibi lamalungelo abantu…

Amalungelo Engane

Ukubonisana kucaphuna uMthetho Wokulingana 2010, eziphathelene kuphela ngamalungelo abantu abadala: kodwa amalungelo abantwana kukhona ivikelwe ngokomthetho ngaphansi kokubili kwe-UN Convention on the Rights of the Child kanye ne-European Convention on Human Rights (I-ECHR).

Uhulumeni umemezele inhloso yokuvala konke Ukwelapha ngokuguqulwa kwabaneminyaka engaphansi kwe-18 kunamandla, kuye ngezimo, ukwephula noma yiziphi izihloko ezilandelayo ze-UN: 3 - izithakazelo ezinhle zengane, 5 - ukuhlonipha amalungelo abazali kanye nempilo yomndeni, 12 – ukuzikhethela, 13 – inkululeko yokukhuluma kanye nokufinyelela olwazini, 14 – inkululeko yokucabanga nenkolo, 24 – impilo, 37 – enonya, ukuphathwa ngendlela engenabuntu noma eyehlisa isithunzi kanye 39 – ukululama ekuhlukunyezweni. Uhulumeni uzama ukuqhwaga la malungelo ngokuzibeka njengoyedwa umahluleli walokho okuzuzisa ingane..

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uhulumeni ecabanga ukuthi inqubomgomo yakhe iyavumelana ne-ECHR, khona-ke kufanele icabange ukuthi isiphakamiso sayo siphikisana ngokuqondile nenqubomgomo yaseFinland egxile kakhulu ngokwesayensi, okusho ukuthi, “Ukwelashwa kufanele kuhlose ukunciphisa noma ukuxazulula i-dysphoria yobulili ngokuhloswe ukunciphisa noma ukuxazulula iziyaluyalu ezicatshangelwayo, futhi ungashintshi imizimba kuze kube yilapho ulashwa ngokwengqondo futhi 25 iminyaka.”

Inkululeko Yenkolo Nonembeza.

Imvelo yokulala ehlongozwayo ‘yokwelashwa kokukhuluma’ ukuvinjelwa, kunomthelela kunoma ubani olokotha nganoma iyiphi indlela ukukhuluma noma ukweluleka ngokumelene nemibono evamile ye-LGBT yocansi, kungaba ezenkolo, izizathu zokuziphatha noma zomqondo. Iziqinisekiso eziphambene nalokho zinenani elincane, uma kubhekwa ukuzimisela okwaziwayo kwabashisekeli be-LGBT ukuhlukumeza labo abangavumelani nabo ngamacala omthetho., izinsongo, ukucwaninga, njll., kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izimangalo zabo zisemthethweni yini. Akugcini lapho; kodwa imizamo eqondile yokuvala inkonzo yomkhuleko - nanoma yimuphi umzamo wokuveza ukuthi izinkinga zocansi zibangelwa izimbangela ezingokomoya - yenza lokhu kube ukuhlasela obala kwenkululeko yenkolo nekanembeza.. Ukuze uthole impendulo enemininingwane, isayinwe ngaphezulu 1,000 Izikhonzi ezingamaKristu, ukubona lapha. Kodwa phawula ukuthi ukucatshangelwa okufanayo kuyasebenza kwezinye izinkolo eziningi kanye, impela, kunoma yibaphi abakholelwa ekubalulekeni kwezisekelo zokuziphatha emphakathini ophucuzekile.

Ucansi kanye Nezocansi

Iziphakamiso zikahulumeni, ngenkathi ethi ulingana, kukhona noma yini. Bagxile ekukhuthazeni amalungelo abantu abambalwa be-LGBT (amalungelo iningi lethu eliwahloniphayo) ngezindleko zalabo aba, kuwo wonke unembeza omuhle nenhloso, ungavumelani nale mikhuba - futhi okukakhulukazi ngezindleko zalelo dlanzana elincane, ngemva kokunambitha indlela yokuphila ye-LGBT, ngiyazisola ngokwenza lokho futhi ngifisa ukukushiya.

Lokhu kulula -I ubulungiswa, uhulumeni oqotho noma ukuhlonishwa kwamalungelo abantu; futhi Ngizimisele ukubhekana nejele kunokuba ngithobele umthetho onjalo.

Ukucekela phansi Intando Yeningi

Isici esithinta kakhulu salokhu konke, okuqhubekayo, ukuzama ukuvimba ‘ukwelashwa kokuguqula’ yindlela izinqubo zentando yeningi ezejwayelekile eziye zadunwa ngayo amaqembu engcindezelo okungeyona eyentando yeningi kanye nengaphenduleki esidlangalaleni, njenge I-Stonewall, I-Global Equality Caucus, futhi Umhlaba we-ILGA. Lokhu, kunjalo, ukungaphakamisi ukuthi izinhlangano ezinjalo azinalo ilungelo lokulalelwa, nemibono yabo inakwe. Kodwa ohulumeni kufanele baqikelele ukuthi bangabonisi ukuchema okungadingekile eqenjini elithile noma kwelinye: futhi yilokho kanye obekwenzeka. Ngisho nokwethula kukangqongqoshe ekuxoxisaneni kuveza ngokusobala ukubaluleka okukhulu uhulumeni akunakile kulokhu okuzayo., ‘Ngiphephile Ukuba Yimi’ ingqungquthela, ozoholwa yiGlobal Equality Caucus’ U-Nick Herbert (ophinde waqokwa nguNdunankulu njengenxusa elikhethekile lase-UK kumalungelo e-LGBT). Ngabe kumane kwaqondana yini ukuthi ingqungquthela ibe ngoJuni, futhi “Kuyinhloso kaHulumeni ukuletha ukuvinjelwa ngokushesha okukhulu futhi sizobe silungiselela uMthethosivivinywa osalungiswa weNtwasahlobo ka-2022.” ?

Kepha izinga lethonya lika-Stonewall elingemuva kwesigcawu ekuphatheni uhulumeni nezinhlangano zomphakathi lithinta kakhulu.. Ukulandela izinkulumo eziningi zokukhathazeka mayelana nekhono elingajwayelekile likaStonewall lokuthonya inqubomgomo yomphakathi, I-BBC Radio Ulster's 'Nolan Investigates’ uhlelo lwethulwe i 18 uphenyo lwenyanga oluholela ochungechungeni lwe 11 amaphodikasti, okungafinyelelwa kuyo njengamanje Imisindo ye-BBC. Uchungechunge olunezandla ezilinganayo kodwa olushaya kanzima luhlola ukuthi izindima eziningi zika-Stonewall njengeqembu labavakashi, umeluleki ongochwepheshe kanye nomhloli wokusebenza kwenze ukuthi iguqule kakhulu izinqubomgomo zeminyango kahulumeni, abaqashi abakhulu nabezindaba (kuhlanganise ne-BBC) ngisho nangale kobubanzi obukhona bomthetho. Akugcini lapho; kodwa i-Stonewall izuze kakhulu kuzo zombili izibonelelo zikahulumeni kanye nezindleko zezinkonzo zayo. Iphinde yabeka izigatshana zokuvalwa kwezinhlaka zikahulumeni ezivimbela ukuthi zikwazi ukwazisa umphakathi okungenzeka 'kuyimfihlo.’ iseluleko esisinikezile! Emuva kwalezi zidumbu inqwaba yalezi zidumbu sezihambile, noma ucabanga ukuhamba, 'Abanqobi beDiversity’ uhlelo.

NgoNovemba 13 2021 kokubili Izikhathi futhi Thumela i-imeyili ku-inthanethi uphethe umbiko wokuthi u-Nikki da Costa, okwathi ngo-Agasti wesula esikhundleni sakhe njengomqondisi wezindaba zezomthetho ka-Boris Johnson, wayekhononde ngalokho, “Iqembu labeluleki abakhulu baka-Boris Johnson livumela inqubomgomo kahulumeni mayelana namalungelo okushintshaniswa ukuthi ilawulwe nguStonewall.” Washo lokho “indawo yokwamukela izivakashi enamandla kuNombolo 10” ibibukela phansi amalungelo abantu besifazane, kuze kufike ezingeni “ukunquma lokho uJohnson akubona emabhokisini akhe abomvu futhi enqaba ukuhlela imihlangano nabantu ababezoveza imibono ephikisanayo.” I-Mail imcaphuna esho, ”Ayikho enye inhlangano - alikho ibhizinisi, noma isisa, noma ngabe inkulu kangakanani - engathatha ucingo kumeluleki okhethekile ohlezi ngaphandle kwehhovisi lika-Boris Johnson futhi enze lowo muntu akhulume ngqo nondunankulu.” “Kodwa lolo uhlobo lokufinyelela uStonewall analo.” Muva nje, ngo-6 January 2022, I-Telegraph ibike ukuthi i-Stonewall “ithole u-£1.25 wezigidi zezibonelelo ezixhaswe ngabakhokhi bentela esikhathini esidlule 18 izinyanga”, plus “ngaphezu kwesigidi sopondo ngonyaka inhlangano esiza abantulayo ekade iyithola ezinhlakeni zikahulumeni” ukuze ube yilungu le-‘Diversity Champions’ uhlelo.

Bekungenjalo (futhi Namanje Akunjalo) Ukubonisana Kwangempela

Vuliwe 30 Nov 21, lapho ebuzwa ukuthi kungani isikhathi sokubonisana ekuqaleni sasimfushane kangaka, UMnu Freer, njengoNgqongqoshe Wezokulingana okwamanje oqhuba lezi zingxoxo, utshele iKomidi labesifazane nokuLingana, “Ngokungagwegwesi, ngoba imayelana 'kanjani', hhayi 'uma'. Izingxoxo eziningi zikaHulumeni zizoqala phansi: ‘Ingabe kufanele sikwenze lokhu? Ithini imibono yakho?’ Leso sinqumo sesithathiwe. Siyaqhubeka nokuvinjelwa kokwelashwa kokuguqula…” Usihlalo wabe esebuza, “Ingabe ukhathazekile ngokuthi abanye ababambiqhaza ababalulekile bangase baphuthelwe ngenxa yokuthi inqubo yokubonisana imfushane, noma uqinisekile ukuthi bonke—” Kuphendula uMnu Freer, “Nginesiqiniseko esiphelele sokuthi wonke umuntu onombono wokwabelana usevele unayo leyo mibono azokwabelana ngayo.” Lokhu, kunjalo, ayichazi ukuthi labo ababengazange bayibone imibuzo yokubonisana kusengaphambili babengayilungiselela kanjani impendulo eyanele engxenyeni yesikhathi esivamile, ikakhulukazi njengoba izindaba zokubonisana bezingcwatshwe ekujaheni kwangaphambi kukaKhisimusi kanye nokuqagela nge-Covid. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukubonisana bekumele kuphele 4 izinsuku: kepha, kulandela ukusongelwa koBuyekezo Lwezobulungiswa yiqembu lamalungelo “Izindaba Zocansi”, lokhu selulelwe ku-4th February'22. Kepha ukugcizelela kukahulumeni ukuthi bazoqhubeka noma ngabe akushintshile.

Singayimisa Kanjani le Juggernaut?

Iwebhusayithi Yezikhalazo Zikahulumeni ivumela noma yisiphi isakhamuzi saseBrithani noma umhlali wase-UK ngokusekelwa 5 abanye ukuqala isicelo; ngaphandle kokuthi ihambisana nemithetho kahulumeni yokufaneleka, kuchaziwe lapha. Uma isicelo sitholakala 10,000 amasignesha, uhulumeni uzokwenza impendulo esemthethweni. Uma ithola 100,000 amasignesha, izocutshungulwa ukuze kube nenkulumo-mpikiswano ePhalamende. Nokho, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kunjalo -I abavunyelwe babe nezikhalazo ezingaphezu kwesisodwa nganoma isiphi isikhathi esenza isicelo esifanayo noma esifanayo.

Isicelo sokuthi “Khansela izinhlelo zokuvimbela ukwelashwa kokuguqula”isivele ikhona esizeni, lapha“. Kodwa amazwi ayehluleka ukukucacisa ubucayi bendaba: futhi ayizange ithole ukumenyezelwa, ukubuthana kuphela 20 amasignesha okokuqala 3 izinyanga! Kuyamangaza lokhu, njengoba kunezinhlangano eziningi nabantu abazwakalisa ukukhathazeka okujulile ngezinhloso zikahulumeni; kodwa abaningi bayanqikaza ukusayina lesi sicelo ngoba asivezi amaphuzu aso ngendlela abangathanda ngayo. Kodwa, ngemva kokuyimemezela kubangani bami, inani lamasignesha liphindwe kane nje 4 izinsuku! Amagama esicelo awakwazi ukushintshwa manje; kodwa akubalulekile ikakhulukazi, njengoba isicelo singeke phoqa uhulumeni enze lokho akucelile. Kodwa yona kungaba thumela isignali eqinile yokuthi lena yindaba ekhathaza umphakathi kakhulu; futhi uhulumeni udinga ukumisa futhi abuyekeze iziphakamiso zakhe.

Sinakho okungaphansi 2 amasonto okuthatha izinyathelo zokuvikela izingane zethu ekuhlukunyezweni okwenziwa ezikhungweni. Ukubonisana kuphela ngomhla zizi-4 kuNhlolanja; futhi uhulumeni uhlose ukuqhubekela phambili nalezi zinyathelo zesitayela se-Stonewall ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ngemuva kwalokho. Ngakhoke, Ngicela bonke abangani bami nanoma ubani omunye ongabelana ngokukhathazeka kwami, ukuthi bangagcini ngokusayina lesi sicelo ngokwabo kodwa badlulisele lesi sicelo kubangani babo njengokuphuthuma. Ungahlanganyela nami kulokhu? (N.B. Ukuze usayine, kufanele ube yisakhamuzi sase-UK noma umhlali. Uzocelwa ukuthi uphendule i-imeyili yokuqinisekisa: kodwa igama lakho ngeke lishicilelwe.)

MISA CINDEZE! Kuphelile 2,500 ongqongqoshe bake basayina isethulo esihlanganyelwe ekubonisaneni nohulumeni. Ukukhathazeka kobuKristu manje kucela wonke amaKristu ukuba bazenzele ezabo izethulo ekubonisaneni, futhi futhi engeza amagama abo kubefundisi’ incwadi. Ngingakukhuthaza ukuthi nawe wenze kokubili. Lokhu akuphathelene nokuthi ubani onesicelo esingcono kakhulu: kumayelana nokwenza konke esingakwenza ukuze sivikele izingane zethu nawo wonke amalungelo ethu ayisisekelo.

Imibhalo yaphansi

1. Kusalungiswa sokuqala salesi sihloko, lokhu kwabizwa ngephutha ngokuthi ‘uMthetho Wezemfundo.’ Ingxenye 28 empeleni bekuyisigatshana soMthetho WoHulumeni Basekhaya owawunqabela (a) ixhaswe yiziphathimandla zendawo ukukhushulwa zobungqingili kanye (b) ukufundisa ezikoleni ezinakekelwa ukuthi kukhushuliwe ‘ukwamukeleka kobungqingili njengokuzenzisa umndeni ubuhlobo’ (i.e. ngenhloso yokukhulisa izingane).
2. “Imizamo Yokushintsha Ukuziphatha Kobulili, Okuhlangenwe nakho Okubi Kwezingane, kanye Nombono Wokuzibulala kanye Nomzamo Phakathi Kwabantu Abadala Abayingcosana Ngokocansi, I-united states, 2016-2018”, eshicilelwe ku-inthanethi yi-American Journal of Public Health (I-AJPH), 10 Juni 2020.
3. Sullins, Donald, Imizamo Yokushintsha Ukuziphatha Kocansi (UMHLABA) *YEHLISA* Ukuzibulala: Ukulungisa Indaba Yocwaningo Lwamanga (Hamba 16, 2021). Itholakala kwa-SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=3729353 noma http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3729353.
4. “Izizukulwane. Ucwaningo ngempilo nempilo yabantu be-LGB emphakathini oguqukayo”, insiza eku-inthanethi ka-Ilan Meyer, et al., kufinyeleleka ku http://www.generations-study.com.
5. Meyer IH, URussell ST, I-Hammack PL, Isithwathwa DM, Wilson BDM (2021) “Ingcindezi encane, usizi, kanye nemizamo yokuzibulala emaqenjini amathathu abantu abadala abancane ngokocansi: I-U.S. isampula yamathuba.” I-PLoS EYODWA 16(3):e0246827.
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7. “I-X-OUT-LOUD - Amazwi Asafufusa E-LGBT” Izici 44 izindaba eziyingqayizivele, kusuka 22 amazwe, kwabesilisa nabesifazane abashiya ubunikazi be-LGBT, eshicilelwe yi-Core Issues Trust, https://store.core-issues.org/product/x-out-loud-emerging-ex-lgbt-voices/.
8. Inhloso eyinhloko yale Memorandamu Yokusebenzisana ithi, “ukuvikelwa komphakathi ngokuzibophezela ekuqedeni umkhuba 'wokwelapha ukuguqulwa' e-UK.” Lokhu, “igama lesambulela sendlela yokwelapha, noma iyiphi imodeli noma umbono womuntu okhombisa umcabango wokuthi noma ikuphi ukuthambekela kobulili noma ubunikazi bobulili ngokwemvelo buthandeka kunoma iyiphi enye., futhi elizama ukuletha ushintsho ekukhetheni ubulili noma ubunikazi bobulili, noma ifuna ukucindezela ukuveza komuntu ukuzikhethela ubulili noma ubunikazi bobulili ngaleyo ndlela.” (Izigaba ze-MOU 1 & 2).
9. Ukuthambekela kobungqingili okubangelwa izakhi zofuzo noma ubulili obuhlukile kuyivelakancane ngoba abathwali balezi zakhi zofuzo abavamile ukuzala..